Gay Issues: Passive or Active?

Homosexuality in men is something that has not been studied completely by anyone. What we know is what people say or do.

In the gay community, "passive" is a word used to describe a man who is the "recipient" of the penis during anal intercourse. Sometimes passive is also applied to the one who takes the other's penis into his mouth (receives it inside him) during oral sex. This is opposed to a person who is "active" which means they are the ""inserter" during anal intercourse and the "inserter" during oral sex. Someone who enjoys both giving and receiving during anal intercourse or oral sex would be considered "versatile". Often the term "versatile" is applied only to anal intercourse.

Someone who is "submissive" is often understood to be one who submits to another person's desires, whether in a sexual way or just generally.

"Submissive" is unlike "passive" in that "submissive" does not have to have an opposite. In gay sex, if there is a passive (recipient) person, then there must be an active person. Likewise in BDSM, if there is a submissive partner, there must also be a dominant partner because the submissive partner conforms to the desires of the dominant party. Most people, most of the time, are neither submissive nor dominant in their dealings with others, whether sexual or otherwise. They are cooperative. What we call "vanilla" sex is just cooperative sex, regardless of who is active and who is passive.

There is good reason from what gay men say and do to believe that the passive (recipient) person in gay sex often feels or imagines himself to be submissive and derives sexual pleasure from that feeling or imagination. Likewise, the active person often feels or imagines himself to be dominant and derives sexual pleasure from that.

The bottom line is. The root for all this terms comes from the person's background. Most Latin men see themselves as active because it is more manly than being passive. So, although they will experience and eventually will enjoy being passive, they will assume the identity of being active because it sounds better and it makes them feel as if the are the man in that relationship. This is too passe.

American gay man are more versatile, and in my view, they are more advanced in this sense. They have no hang ups about what they are or like. While Latin men think that having sex with a man and being active means that they are not all the way homosexual. Macho man in reality is a man who is afraid of his own sexuality. Most macho behave differently when drunk, and it says a lot about them.

In my experience, gay guys who defend the idea of being active are truly afraid of complete sexual experiences and will eventually get into marriage with the opposite sex to later find out that they made a mistake. A man who claims to be active has nothing to do with me, as a man who claims to be passive. Men should be versatile in all senses, if they claim to be gay. I do not believe in bisexuality, for it only exist for those who claimed to be active, and later decided to get married, and in order to function in the society they go after guys to have their nightly encounters. In bed everything can be different, and they may explore things they will feel ashamed of while living the other life. This is simply a mental unbalance.

There will be a day when men will have sex with woman for procreation, and not for recreation, and eventually they will explore all sides of sexual pleasure, for it doesn't require drugs and brings one to climax.

A woman - to keep a man in bed must explore all avenues, and eventually try to be active with her partner with objects etc, to make that relationship more complete. But while there is a ta bu, this experience is only practiced by a few couples. What i mean is: While having sex with  a woman, let her touch you in places you have never been touched before, and bring you pleasure where you never imagine. This is perfectly normal, and should not go away from the bedroom. This way men will feel more complete and lose desire to go in search of trouble outside of their relationship.

This is all for now.

Check on my other gays issues - by clicking on the right side of this site.

Milton

Gay Issues: Bullying

When I was growing up I've never experienced Bullying, nor I was a bully. The word bully did not exist, instead, we used the word cruel. Therefore, I was never cruel to my colegues.

Now, reflecting back to that time, there were older guys who made fun of others, but we understood it as a sense of inferiority. It was simplier then. A person who made fun of another suffered from lack of self confidence, and it was seen as such by all my peers. Whenever possible, that person would hear that his behavior was simply showing his inferiority to the other human being being manifested as a superiority. Today they form a group and become stronger.

For those who do not know what bullying is, (as myself, before living in America), Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, while some U.S. states have laws against it.

When bullying is directed on grounds of sexuality, such as calling names or abusing a person for his sexual orientation, it can become very problematic for the victim. This past week a boy took his life at the age of fourteen for being bullied at school. He was gay, intelligent, charismatic and friendly. He had qualities  we do not find on bullys.

Bullying is a HATE CRIME and must be treated as such. If you are a victim of Bullying, post it on your facebook, let the entire nation learn that you are being bullied. Take to the authorities, police, principal, parents, and make it clear that no one has the right to treat you that way. whether you are gay, or an adolescent in search of self, no one can decide for you what you will become, do, or how you act.

While teaching hogh school as a substitute teacher, I noticed that the bullies I had encountered were usually unattractive, over weighted, strong and stupid. They did not pay attention in class and acted as if they controlled the entire classroom. I ended it in one minute. I put them on detention, I called the principal, I gave moral lessons, and they learned that it was innappropriated. In my case, I was looking for them. I asked to stay in the same detention room with them to see their behavior. Even while in detention, they formed groups. While one student was being detained for tardness, the bullies were being detained to disruption in class. Even inside the detention room they made fun of the other student. This type of behavior is easily detected by any educator. The problem is that we as educators do not have the tools nor the authority to face them as they should be faced. We have to go through proper procedures, such as, not touching, not yelling, not getting upset with them nor calling them names. Many educators lost their jobs because parents of bullys are usually blind to their children behavior. They accept whatever the child saus and go with full power agains the system.

The solution is pure and simple. Bullies should be sent to the juvenile detention center for a program of 8 months. There, they will learn about life, people, differences and acceptance. They then will return to a lower grade. The problem is that bullys today go to the juvenile detention center and there are treated as victims. They take classes as if they are inside a classroom, yet they do not pay attention. They move on in the system, whereas, they should lose one, two, or even three years of their lives to learn to behave properly.

The message here is. Bullies are uninteligent people that should repeat the year as many times as necessary to be up to par with others in the same age group.

Milton Laene Araujo

Gay Marriage and a viable solution link

Gays Issues – Gay Marriage by Milton Laene Araujo

Marriage is a union between a male and a female. This union consists of whatever cultural, legal, religious or even social, economical and emotional reasons they decided to get married.

Should two people of the same sex get married? No!  It distorts the meaning of the word marriage, or creates another meaning, to accommodate a social relationship. Marriage should not be used to describe anything other than a commitment between a man and a woman, and such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.

The issue here is whether two people that share a space for a determined time of years have the right to be taxed like any married individual today, and receive equal benefits. Differently from slavery, racism, or women suffrage, gay marriage has been stretched out of proportion by being compared in a religious sense only, and ignoring what contrasts to it.

Gay people should not get married, but seek for a law that recognises the right of living with a partner and within duo process, the right to adopt and create a family.  Gay people may celebrate their union. But must refrain from the word marriage, for it involves religious beliefs and creates fury for those that vehemently oppose to it.  

It is a political issue, for it involves how to distribute the monies received, and it must be decided without any participation or involvement of religion.

A candidate to public service must recognize that a law needs to be created allowing roommates to have a brake in taxes, and enjoy whatever perks any married couple have. It doesn’t have to have a name, for it is simply a right - It may be called Union of Peers.

In this world of relativity, where one thing depends on another, people need to relate to another to grow spiritually. A union of two people must be recognised and insurance, health benefits, etc should be shared with any other human being.

It is a simple math. Considering that 50% of all marriages end with divorce, why a group of individuals with different sexual orientation, would want to get involved in something that brings nothing but law suits? Union of Peers should be simpler, and require the same address. 

Due to the distortion of the word marriage, and how it has been impregnated into individuals' mind, it is common to see on TV reality shows with gays getting into matrimony. Yes, it is disturbing to any form of faith and religious belief that most people follow. This is what has been played into people’s mind in relation to a “right to support other” agreement, which should exist: Union of Peers.

Therefore, the topic gay marriage should not be an issue. We need to have the right to pass our insurance to a friend or a roommate, or anyone to whom you decide to share, without affecting any premium. All individual policies would not exist anymore. We live in a world of relativity where we need a point A to refer ourselves to point B. We need to relate with others, to know whom and where we are. I oppose gay marriage because it is a mockery to the origin and conservation of the sacrament of marriage. I am in favor of a law recognising Union of Peers with less complication. Something more temporary. Open to all. Now, if you want the nutty gritty of this subject, visit this essay. http://www.bidstrup.com/marriage.htm

UPDATE - March 27, 2013 -

After I finished reading the link above, and doing some some soul search, I changed my mind in relation to gay marriage. I think that gay people should get married because it is a right. I take back all my idea of creating side steps for something that is imminent. People have the right to be free from religion, therefore, there is no arguable dissent to this topic. My post was written in 2009, and it was my idea then. I feel bad for my parents to presence something that they are not ready to face due to their religious belief. I feel bad for everyone who is offended at first for this law, that until now, has not been approved by the courts, but it will be approved, no matter what happens. But if we take a look at History, all changes related to civil rights occurred after great turmoil. I imagine now how difficult it was when a decision to free slaves, or to end segregation came about. Liberty and equality is happening, and only after it is settled that we would see that it makes sense. My heart goes to everyone who will be saddened by this occurrence, but they should not take it personal, unless they want to get married. I have been a racist against my own class because I used my emotions and my feelings that I inherited somehow. I have used bigotry, and I regret for being this way.

Creating laws to accommodate groups is the same as segregation, therefore it can not exist (I am referring to the creation of a Union of peers mentioned before). As you can see, our mind changes and we grow!

Milton




  

Milton

Gays -

A man has an infinite number of pieces. Each piece is connected into a central computer. This computer, called brain, collects each piece of information for its functions in all aspects of its existence.

We are electricity! Our organs to function need electricity. Not the same as we use in our home, but similar, yet, reversible and more complex, but incapable of self adjusting. Think for a moment of an automobile riding on an Interstate, perfectly fine without a motorist. Think of a time when it will be common. Would any of this be possible without electricity of any form? We know that electricity is a form of energy, and there are various forms of energy needed in our system. Our brain evolves as we evolve, for it is capable of storing anything we have presenced.

Back in the past, gay people were treated with electrical chocks, which is called aversion therapy. Using aversion therapy to try to change homosexual men's sexual orientation to heterosexual was controversial. In some instances, notably a series of 1966 experiments, the process was initially judged to have worked surprisingly well, with up to 50% of men subjected to such therapy not acting on their homosexual urges. These results produced a great burst of enthusiasm about changing homosexuality. However, indings were later shown to be flawed: most of the men treated with aversion therapy who stopped homosexual behavior were actually bissexual among men with an exclusive or near-exclusive homosexual orientation.

Certain pieces can not be changed. What makes a gay person gay is his or hers sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is a development that starts in childhood and it manifests itself after or during puberty. It can bring confusing at first, but with time everyone will be certain of his sexual orientation. A human brain is so complex to understand, that humanity will go through billions of years to discover that one single photon is capable of compiling all the information of its existence, in other words, our ashes will have stored what we are, and only time will decide what we will become.

That being said, one of the pleasures in life, that brings one to Ecstasy, is sex. Men and animal are the same. A wild male cat would travel the entire Forest looking for a mate to couple. Once domesticated, things changed. A man, although domesticated, does the same.  For a man, domestication is called marriage. The rest is normal. For a cat, domestication means neutering or have partners selected by the owner.

Here we apply the law of survival. As it was done to gays in the past. It was necessary to procriate, and if you have different sexual orientation, it was against the norm.  At first, to be able to keep a partner, it was necessary to purchase it. The man owned the woman, and could bit her up if necessary. He would pull her through her hair and place her upside-down through her legs. Gay people simply did not exist. It all started when a child played with another child and their brain got that information to manifest it when it was time. Many got over it, but others had this information sink in. For this reason, many scholars thought that the problem was with behavior, but it is yet, more complex that just behavior.

Today we know by experience that there are all types of gays, but the only thing they carry in common is their sexual orientation. They are all different. Like all straight men. They only have in common their heterossexuality.

For this reason it is important to appreciate everyone's sexual orientation, for it is part of their being. It is not a choice that people make when they are living, but a force that orients them into that direction, and no other force can pull it back. It is important to say that no one knows of anyone's sexual orientation, but oneself. Most people choose to live in a closet because they have lived an entire life being one person, and to make that transition would make that person miserable. Others, would prefer to live in a closet for safety reasons, and it boils down to individuality. Every one has the right to manifest whatever they deem necessary for their existence. No one is perfect. Not even you who is reading this post.

Now, when one human being sees homossexuality as a sin, this human being is blinded to all other sins that exist in his world, even his own sins. It is a waste of energy.

To finalize, I have to say however, that among gay poeple there are more promiscuity. This is a simple math. Gay people are not married, they can not have children, they can move from partners to partners in higher frequency, they can interfere more easily with other people's relationship, for they have no concept of the value of a relationship - A civil relationship is not permitted, and today it is not accepted - Even though, what makes a person is his or her character, whenever people are led into temptations it is not easy to deliver from evil alone.

What is important in life

What is life?

Life is a survival!

Observe earth from a satellite view!  See the earth from  "far away enough"  where you can se many large cities, as small conglomeration of bright spots. Observe the immensity of the earth.  Now...

Close your eyes for one minute and imagine yourself looking at a well designed wall, in a bathroom or kitchen ...yet, when you look at the corners you see dirt sports of midlew growing all over ... you are back into reality now! Let then, your thoughts go back to the satelite view of the arth - You are a dark spot on the marble of infinite immensity, which of  make all the difference.

Milton Laene Araujo

Socialized Democracy

Socialized Democracy – By Milton Laene Araujo – September 1, 2011

1-     Freedom—not only individual liberties, but also freedom from discrimination and freedom from dependence on either the owners of the means of production or the holders of abusive political power;

2-     Equality and social justice—not only before the law but also economic and socio-cultural equality as well, and equal opportunities for all including those with physical, mental, or social disabilities;

3-     Solidarity—unity and a sense of compassion for the victims of injustice and inequality.

Certain things in life, such as home, food, and education need our attention.

To begin with Home – It consists of a residence – Every human being must have a right to own a house. Food – It consists of what we eat – Every human being must have access to food in abundance. Education – It consists of where you are in relation to “all that is”. It means that you are growing spiritually.

By just thinking of certain things, such as home, and food you can travel-on in the idea of a perfect world. Imagine living in a place where you are happy to be a part of that community, and also able to move away whenever you feel it is the right moment. Imagine being fed and sheltered in your existence –

Now when we move to education, things get more complicated. Education means that our body is accepting the environment that has been created, in every-way possible, yet, receiving waves of information from all over. The desire for knowledge persists as a self-instinct to be.  

Milton L Araujo