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When I was growing up I've never experienced Bullying, nor I was a bully. The word bully did not exist, instead, we used the word cruel. Therefore, I was never cruel to my colegues.
Now, reflecting back to that time, there were older guys who made fun of others, but we understood it as a sense of inferiority. It was simplier then. A person who made fun of another suffered from lack of self confidence, and it was seen as such by all my peers. Whenever possible, that person would hear that his behavior was simply showing his inferiority to the other human being being manifested as a superiority. Today they form a group and become stronger.
For those who do not know what bullying is, (as myself, before living in America), Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, while some U.S. states have laws against it.
When bullying is directed on grounds of sexuality, such as calling names or abusing a person for his sexual orientation, it can become very problematic for the victim. This past week a boy took his life at the age of fourteen for being bullied at school. He was gay, intelligent, charismatic and friendly. He had qualities we do not find on bullys.
Bullying is a HATE CRIME and must be treated as such. If you are a victim of Bullying, post it on your facebook, let the entire nation learn that you are being bullied. Take to the authorities, police, principal, parents, and make it clear that no one has the right to treat you that way. whether you are gay, or an adolescent in search of self, no one can decide for you what you will become, do, or how you act.
While teaching hogh school as a substitute teacher, I noticed that the bullies I had encountered were usually unattractive, over weighted, strong and stupid. They did not pay attention in class and acted as if they controlled the entire classroom. I ended it in one minute. I put them on detention, I called the principal, I gave moral lessons, and they learned that it was innappropriated. In my case, I was looking for them. I asked to stay in the same detention room with them to see their behavior. Even while in detention, they formed groups. While one student was being detained for tardness, the bullies were being detained to disruption in class. Even inside the detention room they made fun of the other student. This type of behavior is easily detected by any educator. The problem is that we as educators do not have the tools nor the authority to face them as they should be faced. We have to go through proper procedures, such as, not touching, not yelling, not getting upset with them nor calling them names. Many educators lost their jobs because parents of bullys are usually blind to their children behavior. They accept whatever the child saus and go with full power agains the system.
The solution is pure and simple. Bullies should be sent to the juvenile detention center for a program of 8 months. There, they will learn about life, people, differences and acceptance. They then will return to a lower grade. The problem is that bullys today go to the juvenile detention center and there are treated as victims. They take classes as if they are inside a classroom, yet they do not pay attention. They move on in the system, whereas, they should lose one, two, or even three years of their lives to learn to behave properly.
The message here is. Bullies are uninteligent people that should repeat the year as many times as necessary to be up to par with others in the same age group.
Milton Laene Araujo
Now, reflecting back to that time, there were older guys who made fun of others, but we understood it as a sense of inferiority. It was simplier then. A person who made fun of another suffered from lack of self confidence, and it was seen as such by all my peers. Whenever possible, that person would hear that his behavior was simply showing his inferiority to the other human being being manifested as a superiority. Today they form a group and become stronger.
For those who do not know what bullying is, (as myself, before living in America), Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, while some U.S. states have laws against it.
When bullying is directed on grounds of sexuality, such as calling names or abusing a person for his sexual orientation, it can become very problematic for the victim. This past week a boy took his life at the age of fourteen for being bullied at school. He was gay, intelligent, charismatic and friendly. He had qualities we do not find on bullys.
Bullying is a HATE CRIME and must be treated as such. If you are a victim of Bullying, post it on your facebook, let the entire nation learn that you are being bullied. Take to the authorities, police, principal, parents, and make it clear that no one has the right to treat you that way. whether you are gay, or an adolescent in search of self, no one can decide for you what you will become, do, or how you act.
While teaching hogh school as a substitute teacher, I noticed that the bullies I had encountered were usually unattractive, over weighted, strong and stupid. They did not pay attention in class and acted as if they controlled the entire classroom. I ended it in one minute. I put them on detention, I called the principal, I gave moral lessons, and they learned that it was innappropriated. In my case, I was looking for them. I asked to stay in the same detention room with them to see their behavior. Even while in detention, they formed groups. While one student was being detained for tardness, the bullies were being detained to disruption in class. Even inside the detention room they made fun of the other student. This type of behavior is easily detected by any educator. The problem is that we as educators do not have the tools nor the authority to face them as they should be faced. We have to go through proper procedures, such as, not touching, not yelling, not getting upset with them nor calling them names. Many educators lost their jobs because parents of bullys are usually blind to their children behavior. They accept whatever the child saus and go with full power agains the system.
The solution is pure and simple. Bullies should be sent to the juvenile detention center for a program of 8 months. There, they will learn about life, people, differences and acceptance. They then will return to a lower grade. The problem is that bullys today go to the juvenile detention center and there are treated as victims. They take classes as if they are inside a classroom, yet they do not pay attention. They move on in the system, whereas, they should lose one, two, or even three years of their lives to learn to behave properly.
The message here is. Bullies are uninteligent people that should repeat the year as many times as necessary to be up to par with others in the same age group.
Milton Laene Araujo
