Suicide is not the answer, by Milton Laene Araujo

SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER!

I am not going to start with statistics, or other information about why and how people commit suicide. People go through hardships in life, and if you think about it, life is not easy in any aspect.

You cost a pretty penny to be born – You are born wet and naked. As you saw the light of the day for the first time, your lungs inhaled air and you cried. Your first cry brought joy to everyone around you, especially to your caretakers. For five years of your life you have someone around. They are watching you, feeding and providing comfort to you as much as they have for themselves, if not more.

You think, therefore you are!

Sooner than expected you are a being with a mind of your own. As soon as you think, you feel the reality of your existence in this space and time. You think about sleeping time, playing time, studying time. You learn some likes and dislikes of your life, and you think about them too. You discover that you want to be loved.

Time flies. You question about your existence. You see yourself in comparison with others. Life has not been as good for you as it has been for others around you. Groups are formed. A complete sense of “not belonging” takes over your existence. You become rebellious at home. You disobey your parents, teachers, and eventually the law. You are controllable.

Sex comes into the picture!

Now you experience sex. You have faced two roads diverging. Both will take you into a path of uncertainty, and bring you back into the same path you had before.  I will clarify this by stating that, before you have sex for the first time, you were more controllable. Yes, you were a teenager, and your hormones were unbalanced, but you were not the first teenager that ever existed, and your parents know well that this age group is the hardest one to deal with. It comes with the package. The body is changing both physically and mentally. At this time you have a conscious and a personality to develop. If you chose to develop your conscious side, the road would not diverge. You would have listened to your parents, and do as told. But once you had sex, you automatically chose to develop your personality side, the side that wants you to fit in at all cost into the popular group of friends, you will travel into the path of uncertainty, created by you in cahoots with your group. Only among your pears you feel social adequacy. It is missing home adequacy.

Sex among teens can be influenced by peer pressure, drugs, alcohol, pot, parties, etc. The path of uncertainty starts with an infatuation. At this time, the entire consciousness has been shut off. Let me remind you that personality develops as consciousness shrinks. They are the opposite. You can not have both at full array. As a personality person, you start to take care of your body physically, and want to show it off, as if this is the most gorgeous thing you will ever have, and it will remain the same forever. See here that a touch with reality has vanished, and this is why this path is dark. Jealousy comes into play immediately after sex. Battles are fought between girls for one guy who plays with both at the same time. Usually no one blames the guy. Other battles are fought among peers who feel alienated or undesirable. Personality people want attention. They crave for admiration and sell themselves to satisfy a lust that only sex will remediate.

Parents lose control of their teens!

Once sex got into the picture, school became secondary, new friends are on the horizon, drugs are at play and personality people are together socializing while playing the blame game. Priorities have been changed, and parents have not a clue how to modify it. Parents forgot that their children copy what they see outside when they miss it inside their home.

Most people use their personality phase for about fifteen years of their existence, and then shift into consciousness for the remaining of their lives. It is very important to have a good personality because it attracts others into your realm of existence, as it is very important to be an individual. When you balance both, you live a full life with love for others and a sense respect for their individuality. It is not as important to be important, as it is important to be good to others. 

When teens are getting in trouble, parents need to intervene immediately. But remember. You are to be blamed! Start with apologizing for not being there when it started, and give the teen a chance to explain how it all begun. Embrace your child’s problem as yours and fight with your child to overcome. Not against your child. It doesn’t mean picking up a fight with others either. It means to find out what personality phase your child is experiencing. Has drugs been involved, has sex been a part of it? It is infatuation?

Stay closer to your teen and monitor every friend and conversation. This is your obligation. Check phone, text messages, school bag, etc. to find out what little person you are being responsible for. Until your child is 18 you have the obligation to educate, discipline, control and participate. This is a mission you have with life. Ask for help, find help.

One to Blame

Everyone has something or someone to blame for their problems in life. We start with our parents and the way they educated us. Either we come from a broken home, or a dysfunctional family, or divorced parents, or from an orphanage, we always will hang on something to justify our choices in life, and therefore blame it for. When we can not do it, others will do it for us. It is very convenient to find others to blame. It is time to stop this cycle. It is old and passé.

Now you are going to have a baby!

You are only a teen! What to do? The baby is your brother’s baby. The baby has no father. The father doesn’t want the baby. Oh Gosh! You have a problem in your hands. What to do? For starters, you have a home. You have parents and you have a family that you abandoned. You feel all alone. Remember that you abandoned them but they do not you. They hate your actions because of their love for you. If they truly dislike you, they would not care and you would not be worried about them. Now the damage has been made, and it is time to clean up the mess. Take responsibility and share with your guardians your problem. Be honest, and you will be set free of this worry. Reveal what is happening and for one time face life as it is, and not as you have created in your head. To have a baby while teen is not a big deal. It happens every day people have sexual intercourse without protection. The problem will be after birth. Are you going to create a person the way you were created? Are you going to rear with discipline? What are you going to do? Well, you are faced with the same challenges expressed in the beginning of this post. The solution is to talk with an adult. The gift of life is never a problem.

Now you are hooked on drugs!

Wow, it must be terrible, for you need money to buy it and you may not have. At least you will not overdose. But kidding aside, drugs are a drag. The high once acquired will never return, but the search for the same high will remain. Free base is not free, for it can cost you a house, family, friends and even yourself. Drugs are depressant, and sooner or later you will be depressed. Only another shot will put you back in track, or so you think, and this way you are killing yourself one day at a time, and leaving traces of disagreements and unhappiness among everyone you touch. Most addicts commit crimes. The end is in a cell or on rehabilitation facilities. Drug is not a solution, but it is there and you need to learn to live with it, and not be a part of it. Most addicts have a family. They come from some place; they were somebody else one time. Drugs changed them, and we need to accept the fact that this force was greater than his force to resist. We need to extend a hand and offer help. In other words, addiction is bad, but it can be cured only with love and care.

Love Triangle!

If involved in a love triangle, get out! I know you can not hear me, but this is the worse love situation a human being can get exposed to. It always has bad ramifications. Not long ago, only guys used to go after girls for sex, but nowadays, it is the opposite. Girls will do whatever they can to have sex with guys. There are girls who are popular in school because they use boy’s restrooms to give anyone who is interested a blow job. You can not imagine how creative teens are nowadays. They are aggressive towards sex, and when infatuated, no one can change it. They will have sex at all cost. In most love triangle, one guy usually plays with two girls mind until a fight occurs between the girls, who for stupid reason, hate one another and compete for the same guy. It has to do with sex. Usually, in a love triangle parties involved are not aware that they are not the only ones, but when they know about the third person, they enjoy the secrecy and practicing sex with more intensity. Secrecy can make sex very intense, therefore partners continue in a love triangle for as long as it is not known by the third party. Once it comes out, the girls are the ones to suffer. Do not ask me why, but in most love triangle where two girls fought for one guy, they never blamed the guy. Yet, he was the main reason why they were in that place to begin with. Love triangle usually happens when couples decide to try something else, and end up agreeing in having a threesome, but later, one party can not disconnect from the other. While it is a secret, love making takes its toll and both party feel in love. Off course, they are in love with their lives in that present moment, while sex is good and the conversation is light. But not in love enough to the point of being honest and come clean. An affair with bad consequences is about to happen. Everyone will be hurt. Love triangle can and has ended in tragedy. If you are involved in a love Triangle, just remember that you are up to deception. Chances are you a more personality person than consciousness person, and you let your personality take over your life, making it impossible to love with full array of human emotions. Your love is not real. It feels real, but it is an obsession. It is a drug and you are addicted to it. You become blind and the only remedy is to remove this person from your system. True love comes with responsibility. It comes with truthfulness of who you are in relation to the person you love. It means that you are honest and sincere about your feelings. You respect the other being as you want to be respected. This is love. The rest is obsession, confusion, lust, and lack of love. My advice is: Do not be cruel. Do not through it out there for everyone to talk about. Be discrete, end the relationship and relate where you are with your partner. Be honest and ask for help in find out if what you really feel is love or if it is something else. I know it is something else, but you need to have this doubt to start the process of seeing it more clearly. Once it is not a secret, you have a choice or a choice will be presented to you. If you slept with your brother’s wife, it also can be fixed. It took two to do it, and off course, alcohol and whatever was involved. Again, it is something that makes who you are, and you can not ignore the fact that others depend upon you, therefore you need to be clean, and face the consequences. We are all humans and we all make mistakes. No mistake is greater enough to prevent a bigger force to dissipate.

In this life you have a choice!

It is easy for me to say that a person who contemplates suicide has been placed in a predicament. However, it is not easy for me to distinguish whether this predicament is mental or physical. Physical is easier to fix, for it involves money, betrayal, shame, sickness in the family, lost of a loved one or a child, or lost of something as big as a career, status, fame etc. Mental, on the other hand is not easy to fix, for it involves lack of desire to live, medical depression and social inadequacy.

Our brain is responsible for our moods. When you are happy, you feel and act happy and when you are sad we feel and act sad. There are many factors that can make you sad, but usually there are more factors that make you happy. For example: you have a life and you can create great things for others while you are here. You can have a family of our own, you can enjoy a warm bath, you can drive, etc. You are free to do many things. If your brain only brings sad thoughts, you need to see a doctor, who will prescribe a small dosage of medication to your brain that would balance chemically your brain fluids and present you with a moderate mood. When depressed, you lose your physical desire to move. Depression alone can make you have suicidal thoughts, but you can conquer it by taking proper medication. First and foremost, tell a doctor or a suicidal hotline how you feel, and if it is a medical depression, you can be treated. Remember that not all brains can produce serotonin in normal quantity for one to function and face reality with eyes wide open. Take your medication and take one day at a time.

Our body responds to our mood, therefore one thing is connected to the other, except that a depression caused because you lost a child or your money is normal to a certain extent. Our brain will not produce a chemical that makes you happy when you are going through sorrows. It would make you crazy if it produced stamina when you need to be calm and in touch with reality. If you were exposed to faith when you were a child, you would overcome the death of a loved one with less trouble. You would understand that your life is precious and that you are protected by many laws that prevent others of causing you harm, to the point where you walk on streets knowing that no one will shoot you just because. You have a certainty of security, but you can not stop others of making their choices, as no one can stop you of making yours. Lives are important, and while you are contemplating suicide, remember that many people will be affected if you go through with it. For starters, they will question for generations why such and such person committed suicide? What could I have done to prevent it? Why we did not see it? Who is going to marry his children, knowing that they may have tendencies to do the same?  Whose fault was it? Was it his mother or his Estranged father? What took him to actually do it? Was it mental? …and the list goes on for many years to come. Then, families will suffer, separate, change sides and start a war among them with the blame game. I do not think it is worth it. To take one’s life for a physical reason is a very selfish way of departure. It is to let the others deal with the situation, as long as you leave some money. This is selfish because you are here to live a life and set examples to others to do the same. You are here to face your problems and resolve them. Cut your losses and live in poverty, but live with dignity. It is even more selfish when one contemplates murder and suicide. It means complete disconnection with others, lack of empathy and lack of divinity. It means that this human being has never felt empathy for anyone. This is not physical.

To summarize, suicide is not the answer because you are a million pieces. Your family gave you love from the first moment you were born. You have others who depend on you. You are loved by many people and your life is very important for the country, which would place in jail anyone who would harm you. You are important for everyone you have been in touch with, and if you were not here, many people’s life will take different turns because of you, who could guide, or direct or even be a friend when they needed you the most. Your departure will cause an effect greater than your imagination can reflect. It will affect everyone’s life, from the person who hears the news to the person who participates in your life. It will be a tragedy for all human beings to know that together no one could prevent it. Your life will have an end only for you. Others will suffer and be tempered for their entire life.

From the moment you thought about suicide, you realized that you are tired or upset or disgusted with life. It is a normal feeling, for no one is happy and dandy all life. This is the reason we have one day after the other. Every day is a new beginning. If life was a parallel with no days and no nights, and time would not pass, then it would be terrible, but life is not this way. Life is taking one day at a time. Life is hard and costly, but we can manage to exist. We make friends to help us in desperate times. You have helped many people in your life even not knowing them. Face the music! Dance. But please, do not end your life short.

I have heard many things about people that take their own lives.

1-     They are insane

2-     They went bankrupt

3-     They lost something

Others use a different approach and say:

1-     They worth more dead than alive

2-     They were not prepared for this or for that

3-     They could not surpass depression

It doesn’t matter what is bothering you, it will come to pass. We have one day after the other with new opportunities. Whatever the problem is, for one minute let me help you. I will listen to you and I will help you to find a solution. I just want to be your eyes and ears for one minute to comprehend what is taking you to this ultimatum sacrifice.

Write to me: Milton@ibt-eft.com and as a subject line write life

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Cheating

Cheating is lack of love!

Love is the desire to grow spiritually with someone.  Lack is the absence of completeness. Cheating is the consequence of both:  Lack of Love!

To begin, I want to explain what spirituality is. We all have a soul, which is the only part of our being that doesn't die when we physically die. Our soul evolves, for it is a particle of our creator. Imagine for a moment that God with His magnitude wanted to experience Himself. He then placed a particle of Self into the air, at a distance where he could experiment what that particle would do in his realm. We as human are this particle, and we have freedom to do whatever we want in this life. We can be whatever we want, and God is experiencing Himself through us. There are moments when we are connected to our source, as there are moments when we are connected to an opposite force. God is goodness, forgiveness, love, and compassion. The opposite force is simply the lack of it. It is all God, for God is it all, however, our soul goes through good and bad, small and large, etc, etc, in order to evolve.

When we are in contact with our source, we evolve as souls. When we lack this connection, we simply exist. No one can evolve without a relationship, for in this relative world, a point A, "the force", and a point B, "us" can only experiment what is bad when we have an idea of what is good. When we relate with more people, or even the worst media, we are in contact with other people's experiences, and live both concepts of good and bad. Cheater is just a word used to describe a liar.

As humans we can only grow when we are able to share with another being our true self. When one lies to a loved one, the connection with the main source is interrupted. No goodness come out

CHEATING happens when couples lose their connection, therefore, they can not grow spiritually. They go after a lustful desire, and end up cheating. However, this is not the end of the world. EVERYONE has fantasies and if an opportunity appears, EVERYONE is capable of taking advantage of it. For this reason, if we create an idea or a concept, a different idea will emerge. For example: If we decide that we are not going to tolerate cheating. Just by confirming this idea, we will, then be cheated upon in real life and be put to test.

Love is complete when we are connected with our creator, and when we are honest at all times. Cheating is lack of love, for no one can grow spiritually when living in lies.

If a loved one has cheated on you, read bellow and think.

Maybe it is the first time it happened. Maybe it happens many times. Either way, think about your love. Is it unconditional, that you accept your life partner with his faults? Think about your faults. Are you capable of cheating? Have you ever done the same? Have you done such a thing to anyone else?
If you are not so perfect, why are you looking for perfection on others? Can you love an imperfect human being?  What do you want from this relationship? Can you just end it? Do you have a point to prove? If so, maybe this led to whatever happened.

What to do?

Do not leave immediately. Learn to have a heart to heart conversation, where all values are placed on the table. Do not instigate, do not ask for the truth, for it is already written in his/hers' face that it happened, but have the grace to understand that your lover is a human being capable of such thing as you are, given the right opportunity. We are all led into temptations, unless we ask to be led the other way. If your lover is capable of being truthful with you about desires, etc, then you have a good thing going, for growth comes from accepting and showing how we feel while doing so If your partner refuses to be himself completely with you, and pretend it never happened, you then need to go away.

A cheater is always a cheater. Yes, because a cheater is a liar and everyone lies, however, a cheater can stop cheating when he learns to love and grow. We only love who truly loves us, and to truthfully love anyone it is necessary to love them completely. When they feel loved, they start loving themselves and learn to love back.

Sex is not all there is in a relationship. People need to separate sex and relationship, for sex is a small particle in the entire realm of a relationship.

Do not ever confront the third party - It is not your business to care what others do - Concentrate on your partner and decide whether you can live with this. If you can, move on, but if you can not, move out.

To finalize - If you are a victim of a cheater, you are in fault, for your ability to gain people's trust is very low. Either you behave above people's expectations, which creates a barrier for them to see you as an equal or you behave far away from what attracts people to be honest with you. Lovers are friends and they are important in each other lives.  If your lover needs another person to confide his (secrets), he is not your lover! If your lover accuses you of cheating, he is in fault, or has it in mind. Always leave the line of communication open for this type of discussion. If your life partner is not your friend, he is not your lover, and he will not love you with full array of humane emotions. There will be not much growth.

In Summary - God is goodness and goodness is love, and anything else is lack of it. When we are connected with our force, we are honest, truthful and we have goodness in our hearts. When we are disconnected we act disoriented. Spiritual growth only happens when two people are connected here and with the force. To be connected here one needs to be one - When one lies he becomes more than one - hard to keep up -
Hugs

Milton@ibt-eft.com

Existe ceu e inferno?

O que Acontece depois que morremos? Existe ceu e inferno?

Uma das perguntas mais intrigantes de cada ser humano e a vida depois da morte. Para onde iremos? Existe ceu e inferno?

Usarei a definicao de religiao do wikipedia para poder entao usar esta palavra.
Religião (do latim religare, significando religação com o divino ^[1]) é um conjunto de sistemas culturais e de crenças, além de visões de mundo, que estabelece os símbolos que relacionam a humanidade com a espiritualidade e seu próprios valores morais.^[2] Muitas religiões têm narrativas, símbolos, tradições e histórias sagradas que se destinam a dar sentido à vida ou explicar a sua origem e do universo. As religiões tendem a derivar a moralidade, a ética, as leis religiosas ou um estilo de vida preferido de suas ideias sobre o cosmos e a natureza humana.
Nao e somente por descuido da natureza que hoje vemos varios “destinos” para a nossa alma. Existe mais de  quatro mil religioes ou denominacoes no mundo, e cada uma tem uma resposta. Uma grande quantiade de pessoas acreditam em reincarnacao. A crença de renascer noutro corpo; a crença de que vivemos antes e viveremos novamente noutro corpo após a morte. Era uma crente vulgar nas religiões orientais como o hinduismo e o budismo, mas agora é uma pedra base de teorias como a dianética e o canalizar.
Para as pessoas que acreditam em reincarnacao, apos sua morte, elas serao reincarnadas. Portanto – a resposta para os que acreditam, sera uma confirmacao daquilo que sempre souberam de corpo e alma. Num livro de Carol Bowman, “Return from Heaven” a autora descreve sobre amigos, parentes, reincarnados em sua mesma area. Hoje temos como exemplo de reincarnacao, Dalai Lama que e o decimo quarto de um grupo Tibetan.
Para as pessoas que acreditam que tudo acaba, tudo certamente vai acabar, e aquela alma cessa de existir, pois nao havera busca nem procura – Talvez um resgate.
Em poucas palavras: Cada ser vai experimentar aquilo que colocou sua fe. Cada ser nasce numa area e esta propicio a acreditar naquilo que lhe passam. Trata-se de uma vida digna de ser vivida dentro de um padrao social limitado aquilo que lhe e passado, lido, observado e vivido.
O mais dificil comeca quando somos apresentados a varios ensinamentos religiosos, varias formas de acreditar num fim, e nos perdemos completamente de uma so verdade ou crenca, e passamos a conviver com todas ao mesmo tempo. Um exemplo disso seria um catolico que vai visitar uma cartomante. Ai ja entra conflito de interesses, e o conhecimento abre portas para mais perguntas, mais crencas e assim o ser segue numa vida de busca, com varias respostas e menos certeza.
No momento em que morremos, nosso cerebro comeca a se desconectar eletricamente do nosso organismo devido a falta de exigenio, e esta conexao pode levar varios minutos para concretizar. Embora os aparelhos confirmem a morte, uma parte do cerebro pode trazer ao individuo uma recapitulacao clara daquilo que ele vivenciou, ou escutou, e geralmente isso acontece somente em casos de pessoas que foram detectadas mortas e voltaram, por assim dizer, depois de alguns minutos, e contaram as mesmas historias.
Quando um ser vai e volta, este ser vem modificado pela historia de sua vida, e o tal ultimo grasp de oxigenio que o cerebro recebe e bem maior do que os anteriores, porque antes estava dividindo com outros orgaos, e assim num flash, a pessoa acorda, e os equipamentos voltam a funcionar, e o ser fica entao paralizado temporariamente, mas vivo com as memorias que presenciou…e o medico fica pasmo, a familia acredita, e logo vem um livro contando o que viu, e assim se formam grupos de crentes nesta obervacao de que no alem e assim ou assado.
Depois que morrermos, nossa alma vai ao encontro da luz que nos cria e nos mantem. Seja em forma de alma, de espirito, de energia,ou ate com a mesma forma fisica,  Antes de chegar la ela passara por todos os obstaculos que criamos e nao reparemos. Obstaculos estes que afetaram a nos e tambem ‘aqueles que involvemos.
A nossa vida aqui na terra e uma passagem maxima de 100 anos aonde poderemos criar momentos (ou energias), sejam de bondade, sejam de crueldade. Estas energias terao repercusoes nas vidas que tocamos, e consequentemente em nossas. Veja por exemplo que gastamos mais energia ficando de mal com alguem do que ficando de bem.
Entedemos a diferenca entre Guerra e paz, pois estamos em Guerra desde que o mundo era mundo, porem, cada ser colabora nesta energia de Guerra. Cada ser mantem um sentimento, ou julgamento, baseado naquilo que acredita, ou tem fe. Ha guerras por todos os lados. Dentro de casa, nas ruas da cidade, e.na vida de cada um.
Quando dirigimos um veiculo e nos aproveitamos agressivamente no transito, estamos radiando uma energia de descontentamento, ou de Guerra. Quando roubamos, ou quando nos aproveitamos de qualquer outro ser, estamos criando obstaculos. Estes, refletirao em nossa vida, e na vida dos afetados. Se conseguirmos nos arrrepender completamente daquilo, poderemos ter uma melhor chance de nao sermos atormentados, pois o tormento existe enquanto vivemos. Se procurarmos ver o outro ser humano como uma replica nossa, poderiamos ate ser mais generosos.
Quando eu me pergunto sobre a riqueza do mundo, vejo que esta passando da mao de um para a mao do outro, e sempre aparecendo jovens ficando milionarios. Se eu acreditasse em reincarnacao, poderia deduzir que estes jovens tiveram uma vida passada com muita bondade e filantropia, num mundo aonde somente existiu Guerra, e mereceram ter dinheiro para poder entao fazer algo melhor para aqueles que nao tem. Muitos milionarios ajudam varias causas no mundo. Digo, a maioria deles. Pois doar significa deduzir nos impostos, entao isso se torna quase que uma imposicao. Assim sendo cada milionario tem a sua propria agencia filantropica, nao profitavel, aonde eles podem entao doar diretamente para uma causa que interessa o milionario. Sei que a vida de milionarios nao e um mar de rosas como se pensam. Os artistas sao perseguidos, as princesas sao presas nos palacios, os que saem na rua, saem disfarcados. Por isso nao posso confirmar minha teoria de que os que hoje sao milionarios fizeram somente bondade na vida passada.
A teoria basica da vida e a seguinte:

·        Devemos obedecer as leis criadas pelo homem,

·        Devemos praticar nossa fe seja ela qual for, sendo sempre tolerante as outras praticas, sejam elas quais forem,

·        Devemos ser toleraveis.

·        Devemos ensinar sobre varias religioes aos nossos filhos menores.

Ninguem esta acima da lei. Todo mundo obedece as leis. Elas foram criadas para resolver disputas que acontece entre os seres humanos. Ha lei pra tudo, e a cada dia se criam mais de mil leis que repara esta e aquela, e que tem precedente sobre esta ou aquela.
Todos devem praticar fe em alguma coisa que se relacione com o ser humano, e a sua capacidade de entender perdas sem retaliacoes. Como entender sonhos? Como entender a morte? como entender a razao da vida? Senao por ensinamentos religiosos. Aqueles que nao tem fe em nada vivem como luzes apagadas. Eles nao iluminam.
Se praticamos tolerancia, seremos toleravies. Somente aprenderemos a ser tolerantes quando aprendemos sobre o assunto.
Todo casal que tem bom senso sabe que existe muitas perguntas que somente fe em Deus e a certitude de que tudo ficara bem pode aclamar uma crianca. Elas merecem estarem envolvidas e praticarem a religiao dos pais, pois todas tem um caminho somente – Deus.
Cada qual escolhe o seu caminho, ou a sua forma de praticar e experimentar esta vida. Aquilo que voce acreditar acontecera com voce, e voce vivenciara isso. Entao pergunte a voce mesmo o que acontecera com voce depois que voce falecer.
Ceu e um lugar de completa felicidade e positividade, aonde todas as experiencias negativas se transformaram em positivas, dando a luz uma imensidao. O ceu nao e relativo a nada. Para o ceu voltamos para reestabelecer nossas energias, e entao continuar a jornada, ou ficar la.
O inferno e um lugar de tormento, falta de luz, falta de bondade que experimentamos enquanto vivos, devido a coisas que fizemos ou que fizeram pra nos. Este prossegue alem da vida quando somos mais negativos do que positivos, e isso nao cabe a nos julgar.  
Para finalizar, quero acrescentar que Deus criou Adao e Eva e os colocou no paraizo. La, depois de estarem por algum tempo, eles desobedeceram a Deus. Deus deu a eles o castigo da morte. Assim, logo em seguida comecou o bem e o mal a se proliferar. Antigamente se pensava que o mal seria o primojenito, e o bem o seguinte, tudo isso baseado no assassinato de um dos filhos de adao, Abel por Cain, seu irmao mais velho. E assim o mundo se desenvolveu com o bem e o mal dentro de cada um de nos. Somos os dois, e somente se soubermos viver com outros, poderemos ser mais posotivos do que negativos, e isso cabe no dia a dia de cada um de nos.
Nos veremos mais aqui e depois no Ceu.

Milton Laene Araujo 

Donate blood now!

Let’s donate blood?

I am not an expert in this subject, and my point will be very simple. Everyone should donate blood 6 times per year. Every town should have a “state of the art” post for collection in mass.

“Every three seconds someone, somewhere, needs a blood transfusion. Blood is always in demand and that’s why we’ve made it easy to donate. Florida’s Blood Centers has facilities throughout the 21 counties we serve and the Big Red Bus is always nearby at local blood drives. We also want our donors and the community to understand the importance of donating; how the blood donation process works; and how blood is used. You can find it all here.”

When my mother had my brother Mauricio, she went into a troubled cesarean, and hemorrhage occurred. My father donated blood directly to her. It was in 1972, and blood transfusion, in a small hospital in the suburbs of Brazil was nothing other than a transfusion. She later recovered, and my father continued donating blood to the same hospital for a while longer. 

I want to donate blood, for I carry the same O positive type as my father. This is not the universal donor, but it is more common. 1/3 of the population carries this type of blood. I have never donated blood because I am gay, and I always considered myself a high risk.

Recently I read that gay people are being banned of donating blood. “Blood donations are down in the U.S. this summer. Gay men have been banned from donating blood because it has been connected to the spread of AIDS. But policymakers are re-examining that ban. The debate has raged among officials, and created a national conversation, as reflected in  CNN.com comments.

I think this is absurd. Gay people also need blood, and I would care less whether I am receiving it from another gay. As long as the blood center is able to refuse or accept based in “lab tests” and not based on opinions.

The average adult has about five liters of blood inside of their body, coursing through their vessels, delivering essential elements, and removing harmful wastes. Without blood, the human body would stop working. Blood transports oxygen from the lungs to the body’s tissue and carbon dioxide from the body tissue to the lungs. Blood is the fluid of growth, transporting nourishment from digestion and hormones from glands throughout the body. Blood is the fluid of health, transporting disease fighting substances to the tissue and waste to the kidneys.

Another point is the fact that women menstruate and lose blood every month, and that blood is replenished, giving the women renewed amount of iron, and other chemicals. It helps with their health, and the proof is that women live longer.

If we share the idea that everyone should donate blood every 60 days, things will be better. Today people are afraid of the needle, and imagine that donating blood is an act of generosity, while it is an act of self maintaining. Others are simply too ignorant and too wrapped up on themselves to understand how good life will be for both parties involved, and for the nation.

I would like to see a study showing the benefit to the blood donor. I know it has benefit.

I want lawmakers to expose this benefit and encourage the entire population to donate blood.

Gay people can donate blood and have it stored in different places for different purpose.

It is stupidity to great a law banning certain groups of donating fluid of life. This is the ultimatum of all absurdity.

Milton L. Araujo

The perfect being

Science is knowledge! And as such, it must be taken very seriously.

After I read an article about down syndrome on Wikipedia I discovered that "Individuals with Down syndrome differ considerably in their language and communication skills. It is routine to screen for middle ear problems and hearing loss; low gain hearing aids or other amplification devices can be useful for language learning". ^86] For partial glossectomy (tongue reduction), one researcher found that 1 out of 3 patients "achieved oral competence," with 2 out of 3 showing speech improvement.

Why don't we have all children with down syndrome exposed to partial tongue reduction? If it will better their quality of life. If it may even help with thyroids problem, which of, in consequence brings obesity and all  sort of other problems.

On another related article, it stated that 91–93% of pregnancies in the United Kingdom and Europe with a diagnosis of Down syndrome were terminated.^[73] Data from the National Down Syndrome Cytogenetic Register .
In the United States a number of studies have examined the abortion rate of fetuses with Down syndrome. Three studies estimated the termination rates at 95%, 98%, and 87% respectively.^[73]

Medical ethicist Ronald Green argues that parents have an obligation to avoid 'genetic harm' to their offspring,^[76] and Claire Rayner, then a patron of the Down's Syndrome Association, defended testing and abortion saying "The hard facts are that it is costly in terms of human effort, compassion, energy, and finite resources such as money, to care for individuals with handicaps... People who are not yet parents should ask themselves if they have the right to inflict such burdens on others, however willing they are themselves to take their share of the burden in the beginning."^[77]

 Peter Singer argued that "neither haemophilia nor Down's syndrome is so crippling as to make life not worth living from the inner perspective of the person with the condition. To abort a fetus with one of these disabilities, intending to have another child who will not be disabled, is to treat fetuses as interchangeable or replaceable. If the mother has previously decided to have a certain number of children, say two, then what she is doing, in effect, is rejecting one potential child in favour of another. She could, in defence of her actions, say: the loss of life of the aborted fetus is outweighed by the gain of a better life for the normal child who will be conceived only if the disabled one dies".

This is far too much to digest in a simple page. It seems that science, capable of detecting a fetus with "abnormalities", jumps the gun in selling the tool of "detection" and prevention, forgetting that it needs to fix the abnormality.
For now, science needs to create a device that reverses the entire process of development of the chromosome that carries the abnormality.

Down syndrome disorders are based on having too many copies of the genes located on chromosome 21. In general, this leads to an over expression of the genes. Understanding the genes involved may help to target medical treatment to individuals with Down syndrome. It is estimated that chromosome 21 contains 200 to 250 genes. Recent research has identified a region of the chromosome that contains the main genes responsible for the pathogenesis of Down syndrome, located proximal to 21q22.3. The search for major genes involved in Down syndrome characteristics is normally in the region 21q21–21q22.3

If abortion is ever to be considered legal, from a law point of view, it would bring a pandemonium into people's lives, that can not ever be fixed. To begin, science and abortion will work side by side, eliminating from the face of the earth every fetus that has this or that abnormality. Scientists would become greedy and forget their principal objective, which is prevention of abnormalities by scientific means of resetting the DNA configuration of that particular abnormality.

Science needs to change its gears from corrective maintenance to preventive maintenance. Science now is stagnated in finding how to correct this or that disease, caused by this or that abnormalities. Scientists are more concerned in creating pills. For now science is working side by side with free market or capitalism. 

Science should only be used for the benefit of humans, and not for enrichment of enterprises. 

It is fair to say that scientists are able to manipulate an allele, which  is one of two or more forms of a gene or a genetic locus (generally a group of genes).^[1][2] The form "allel" is also used, an abbreviation of allelomorph. Sometimes, different alleles can result in different observable phenotypic traits, such as different pigmentation. However, many variations at the genetic level result in little or no observable variation.

A number of genetic disorders are caused when an individual inherits two recessive alleles for a single-gene trait. Recessive genetic disorders include Albinism, Cystic Fibrosis, Galactosemia, Phenylketonuria (PKU), and Tay-Sachs Disease. Other disorders are also due to recessive alleles, but because the gene locus is located on the X chromosome, so that males have only one copy (that is, they are hemizygous), they are more frequent in males than in females. Examples include red-green color blindness and Fragile X syndrome.
Other disorders, such as Huntington disease, occur when an individual inherits only one dominant allele.

Science needs to put more effort into modifying the composition of a defected allel. Science needs to get its priority straight.

By now we all - I mean, every individual should have a DNA identification, which would refer to a central global communication for all means related with law enforcement, forensics, and medical. Along with our identification, a daily reading of our blood content would indicate which nutrients are necessary for that day. Science should be more advanced than what it is now. We need good scientists. We need to praise the good ones, who are studying  prevention of abnormalities by manipulating genes, and not those more interested in creating a new pill to make this or that go away.

I am not against progress. I just do not appreciate when progress come in such a high cost for everyone.

By now we should have humans beings immune of any diseases, that can live at least 300 years with only one appearance, perfect weight, and controlled mood, etc. A perfect human being who was perfected to live in this environment by his fellow human, who used science to manipulate genes, creating pure-breads from within hybrids.

Can we get there, finally?

Milton

Let's change the World

Shall we?

There are five basic things that human beings need today.
1- Shelter
2- Food
3- Utilities (Electricity, Gas, Water, Etc.).
4- Medical Assistance
5- Dignifying Existence with proper Security and respectful death.

As we can see for ourselves, no form of government has achieved this simple goal throughout the existence of human beings.

It all started a long time ago when there were only two groups of people. The Araujo and the Da Silva. The Araujo had skills in building, while the Da Silva was living in peccary conditions, and had the skills in planting. Although living in different areas, they were separated by one river, which divided to become four rivers.
Soon they realized that it would be convenient to exchange food for labor, and a Union existed among these two groups. In a faraway land, another group was forming, involving people from both first groups who realized that things can be better if they become a group and planted something other groups could not obtain due to drought or climatic conditions. Soon the third group realized that they could not get along with their ideas, and in despair, they robbed the other two groups. Soon it become a problem, and the Union decided that it was necessary to have security to protect the land. The Union which was only two Kings at first, King Araujo and King Da Silva, exchanged various types of seeds in exchange to whatever goods the other group could provide.  This system did not work for too long, for the desire to obtain food and goods turned into a desire to conquer the entire territory and keep it in his Domain. King Araujo and King Da Silva died and left their kingdom to their firstborn sons, with the same last name.

Later, Different forms of government were created to represent the people and offer security. People were tired of excessive power being demanded upon them by the King.

The King's mistake happened when he shared with the population that he was a chosen king who can communicate with higher entities. The population felt scared and believed that the King was a true messenger of God, and for this reason, followed the King's orders fearing a final punishment. In certain areas, the King was good for his people, but in other areas, the King was a Tyrant. As people traveled from one area to another they learned that different kings had different ideas. Immigration started and it never stopped until today. Fences were placed to keep the people inside to no avail. Forms of adoration were created and practiced among people in search of eternal life, which differ by each group in each psychical space.

The Strong King had conquered various territories. He had under his lap half of the population. Everyone was unhappy. The king taxed the entire population, even when not represented. People in discontentment revolted against the King, but could never fight a King who had his entire guard ready to punish any individual who would go against his will.

When Jesus came, the most oppressed, persecuted, and a badly treated group of people were the Jewish Community. They had prior been stripped out of their right to be in the land as dignifying human beings. They were forced to "exodus" exit to escape forced labor and tyranny. With the help of Moses, they went in search of the promised land and found it. The King of Rome eventually takes the land of the Jews by force and again, they become persecuted and flee to other areas with other kings, sometimes in disguise fearing being recognized.

This persecution has roots before biblical times. The Jewish Community had somehow a place where they would worship God, and receive direct orders. Most of them obeyed the orders, but like in any group, we have people who do not have faith. The King took this concept and turned it into his own, alleging that he had received orders from God, and most of his tyrannies were "excused" by the gentiles, who were neither Jewish nor anything else, but groups of people who worships God as they seemed fit, with the presence of a living mythology, which explains religious practice. 

The Jewish community had scribes who would keep notes of what was happening and what was supposed to happen in the future, in accordance with what God had told them.

They were told to expect a Messiah who would reign the entire world. With so many mixed emotions, most Jewish were expecting the Messiah to come from a well-endowed family, with resources to fight the Romans and give their land back to them. Instead, the Messiah was a poor man from Nazareth. It was hard to swallow that Jesus was the promised Messiah. But those, who had access to the scriptures and the tales, felt inclined to accept Jesus because it fits with everything it was written before. Here we have another confusion. The King who was supposed to receive this information firsthand, end up learning from others about the arrival of the King of all Kings. Infuriated, he demands to kill every baby male in the area. Jesus was saved.

Jesus grew up learning to please God, his father, and so he did. He had direct communication with God and proved that he did by making what we call miracles. While people expected him to take the Throne and change the world, he had a short life and did not enter any college, but in his life, he was a Doctor. He was Jewish, in case you don't know it. Jesus was able to live 33 years without committing one sin against God, his father. No one can find in the scriptures a sin committed by Jesus while in existence. Yes, he gets furious, but not ever to the point of committing a sin. Something we can not do in one single year. His kingdom starts after his death. Now, people that had no faith or expectation of ever having eternal life, could hear from Jesus that it is possible. Most people took it to their heart.

Christianism originated and the Catholic Church takes the first step in passing the message to the world. Donations started to poor and the King realized that he was losing revenue to a newly created order. The Order became more powerful than all kings placed together, for it had members all over the Globe. Whenever a conversation about conquering new places or traveling to new areas appeared, the Catholic church was primarily involved. A New Testament was added to the Bible to share the life of Christ. In order to keep its good status with the newly formed congregation, most kings decided to be a part of it and so did each group of people. The church grows immensely, and it is bigger than any territory. It creates colleges, to educate more people to be a part of this Union. The church travels to the entire Globe. When Colombo came to America, the Boat was filled with Priests. They could read and write and would be used in negotiations. Immediately the church decided that its members have to be male and they can not get married. The church doesn't want to support a family or give away land for its members to create a family. At this point the church becomes greedy. It creates towns, it builds colleges, it builds churches, and plantations, and gets involved in helping families to move. The King needed authorization from the Pope to do many things, for it would not receive proper care and it could fail altogether. The Church had the people under control most of the time. The church could be cruel and ruthless at times. But at the same time, the church was capable of uniting the entire world into one direction of faith. This power lasts for 1500 years without much interruption.  During this time the church controlled astronomy, and medicine, and converted many Jewish into its own group by force.

The king of England Henry VIII is known for his role in the separation of the Church of England from the Roman Catholic Church. Henry's struggles with Rome led to the separation of the Church of England from papal authority, the Dissolution of the Monasteries, and the establishment himself as the Supreme Head of the Church of England. Yet he remained a believer in core Catholic theological teachings, even after his ex-communication from the Catholic Church. This echoed to the entire world which was under an inquisition for a period of time.
The Tribunal of the Holy Office of the Inquisition (Spanish: Tribunal del Santo Oficio de la Inquisición), commonly known as the Spanish Inquisition (Inquisición española), was a tribunal established in 1480 by Catholic Monarchs Ferdinand II of Aragon and Isabella I of Castile. It was intended to maintain Catholic orthodoxy in their kingdoms and to replace the Medieval Inquisition which was under Papal control. The Inquisition was originally intended in large part to ensure the orthodoxy of those who converted from Judaism and Islam. This regulation of the faith of the newly converted was intensified after the royal decrees issued in 1492 and 1501 ordered Jews and Muslims to convert or leave.
Various motives have been proposed for the monarchs' decision to fund the Inquisition such as increasing political authority, weakening opposition, suppressing conversos, profiting from confiscation of the property of convicted heretics, reducing social tensions, and protecting the kingdom from the danger of a fifth column.
The body was under the direct control of the Spanish monarchy. It was not definitively abolished until 1834, during the reign of Isabella II, though it had ceased effective operation sometime earlier after a long decline.

As we can see, at this time the Catholic Church loses its power, and small groups who practiced other types of faith, different from Catholics, gained force because it was in the king's interest, as well the people's.

The Jewish Community, again, was forced to move into different areas. It is important to say that the Jewish Community did not follow the Catholic Church Beliefs and they remained United. Although, in different places, they were able to communicate with one another and keep their faith in God Almighty.

During a time where oppression comes from every side, the only thing that keeps people fighting is their faith. If one King is able to separate from the Catholic Church, why can't others worship God as they, please? And so they did it. Today we have over 200 different religious groups, and inside Christianity alone over 2000 different forms of believing in God through Jesus.

Meanwhile, Kingdoms become terrible places to stay. People go to the newly found world in search of freedom of religious persecution. Others come to escape poverty, and others to invest and make the new world a better place to live. While others, like Karl Marx, try to create different ideologies to be followed by Kings to make it a better place.

"Religion is the opium of the people" is one of the most frequently paraphrased statements of Karl Marx. It was translated from the German original, "Die Religion ... ist das Opium des Volkes" and is often referred to as "religion is the opiate of the masses." The quotation originates from the introduction of his 1843 work Contribution to Critique of Hegel's Philosophy of Right which was subsequently released one year later in Marx's own journal Deutsch-Französische Jahrbücher, a collaboration with Arnold Ruge. The phrase "This opium you feed your people" appeared in 1797 in Marquis de Sade's text L'Histoire de Juliette and Novalis's "[R]eligion acts merely as an opiate" around the same time.

The quotation, in context, reads as follows (emphasis added):

The foundation of irreligious criticism is: Man makes religion, religion does not make man. Religion is, indeed, the self-consciousness and self-esteem of man who has either not yet won through to himself, or has already lost himself again. But man is no abstract being squatting outside the world. Man is the world of man – state, society. This state and this society produce religion, which is an inverted consciousness of the world, because they are an inverted world. Religion is the general theory of this world, its encyclopedia compendium, its logic in popular form, its spiritual point d’honneur, its enthusiasm, its moral sanction, its solemn complement, and its universal basis of consolation and justification. It is the fantastic realization of the human essence since the human essence has not acquired any true reality. The struggle against religion is, therefore, indirectly the struggle against that world whose spiritual aroma is religion.

Religious suffering is, at one and the same time, the expression of real suffering and a protest against real suffering. Religion is the sigh of the oppressed creature, the heart of a heartless world, and the soul of soulless conditions. It is the opium of the people.

Time passed and so did Monarchy. The oppressive power  was giving place to a group of people that could represent each small area inside a territory, provide the five basic things for human beings, which is called today Government.

Today we are oppressed by high taxes, expensive food, inability to own a shelter, for we have to pay tax for the rest of our lives. We do not have anything. What we have is contingent to the fact that we pay our taxes on time or we lose our shelter.  The bank own our homes and play with its value as it may. We are slaves of a system that requires our attention 24 hours per day. We build National Parks, but we can not afford to visit them. Our lives has been so suppressed that we do not realize that one parent can not support a family of four, including himself. Everyone needs to work, and the more we work the more we starve. It is all wrong. We can lose our car if we do not pay insurance. Life is a punishment!

SERVICES! How much this word is misused.

As you can see, whatever we have been doing is not working. There are many left behind. It has always been this way. It is time to make a change!

We can blame anyone else. Even the Government, but it is mostly our fault.

We can make this change.

Let's start with our Government. It is necessary to use a Governmental System in combination with Capitalism and Socialism, where the Government is responsible for the 5 basic things human beings need today. The government would provide shelter to every couple with 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms, a kitchen and a living room area, and an office area. Independently of gender, or marital status, any group of two would be registered with the System. When the children appear, the couple would change into a more spacious place. All places will be equally designed, and have the same amenities. A couple who can afford to change into a more spacious place will pay the difference from his pocket, with earnings he received doing some skilled work. This way we have a system that we know beforehand how much the Government needs to provide the five basic needs to every household.

Once these five needs are met, PRIVATIZATION will take place. Anyone with skills to offer can have a place of business to either work directly with people, in the case of a supermarket, grocery stores, or convenience stores, or work directly with the government, by doing services to keep the 5 basic needs in shape.

Right along comes the CONGLOMERATION of CHURCH AND GOVERNMENT, where the government pretty much controls the church in monetary faction only. Considering here that all basic needs are being met accordingly, it is not necessary to have the church help families in need, and the church will do the job of promoting faith by creating areas where the congregation can meet and worship as they may. Providing food while pic-nicking with all members to worship our creator. Churches will provide travels to members into sacred places, and provide serenity and peace of mind. Today we have churches all over the place. People from small religious groups can only rent a small place to worship, and most of the time it is away from their homes. By having a countdown of the number of religious people, a city will know what type of religious church it must have. It could have one building where worshippers of any religion could have their own quarters. Religious classes will be taught in school as history classes, so every child will have a sense of direction by learning where they come from. The Government will treat a church as a non-profit organization, with the same laws applied. Worshippers will see their place of worship as a place to thank God for providing the five basic needs in life.

How the Government will provide to "people" the five basic needs?

Initially, by purchasing back the entire utility company and becoming the sole provider of Utilities. Offer what is valued in profit for 5 years, and let us pay the government for utilities for 10 years.

Differently from Utilities, the Government will pay the bill to the private hospital where you attended. No medical insurance is needed. The government will have a price for each procedure, cost of the bed, etc, and will pay the hospital directly for the expenses. This will give the government a reason to pay the right price. Insurance companies will simply be abolished. Employers will pay the government 70% of your earnings before you even see anything. The thirty percent that you receive will be enough for entertainment.

Food, on the other hand, will be controlled by the market, along with all other commodities, and the government will act as one sole investor, knowing that it has many mouths to feed. There will be a time when we will have graphed geologically what to grow and where, and that country will provide the world with whatever it can provide in terms of food. There will be a price tag equivalent to the value of that commodity, and the government is solely responsible for providing it in abundance for us to purchase. The government will control staples only. All other types of food are privatized and you purchase as you desire. The government will provide food stamps at a value reasonable for one person to survive.

Once these things are in place, most private companies will be doing business with the government in our benefit. We are paying the government to provide shelter, and in case of any mishaps, the government is responsible for taking the measures needed. There will be contracts signed between the governments and service providers, and they must comply with what is imposed, for they are private companies making money off the government. For us, people, we pay a price tag monthly, and our goal is to get involved in something that we can do and sell to others, besides our own job, or live a life of the median class forever.

How to start?

Let's find out how much it costs to feed the entire population monthly.
Let's find out how much it costs to shelter the entire population monthly with utilities.

This money needs to come from our pockets entirely and must represent a fraction of our earnings not higher than 50%. The remaining 20% the government uses to assure medical security in our lives. We will live on a 30% to pay for more education and entertainment.

Start with a new city and make it work, and little by little move on to other areas. Each city representative is responsible for gathering all data pertinent to each city. This is not communism, it is a form of capitalism mixed with socialism where our government takes the burden to provide for us, by taking our money and using in whatever it is necessary to provide our basic needs.

Now that the basic needs are met, we have a new generation of people. All fed and with good grades. Then comes innovation, creation, and service providers doing more odd jobs to obtain a better life. Remember that these five basic needs today are provided by yourself, your parents, or someone in your family, or they are not met at all. This is wrong, and we need to work together to make sure our government takes care of these five basic things.

What will happen is, we will develop better Internet communication, and better service until we find the best one of all. the same thing with everything else.

The government has been fighting battle after battle to keep us safe from intruders, who do not believe in our system, yet they have not come up with anything better to protect us. We need scholars to help us in deciphering how much we need to take care of ourselves. We need to give an example to others to follow the same pattern. We (Human beings) need to change this system of things before it changes all of us. We are following in the footsteps of our ancestors. We are fighting a lost battle. We are fighting religion, we are fighting for oil, we are fighting for legal rights since we were born.

This system of things is so bad that it is impossible to swallow. I am talking about every single nation in the world. There is no one who can provide these basic needs. We have on one side a government that plans to privatize everything, and still collect taxes, and on the other side a government that wants to make it different but is tied up with contracts left by others. It is a mess.

 Congress can not agree on how to divide the money it collects from people, and little by little cut benefits that were created - and oppression is taking charge.

We need a government that takes responsibility in our basic needs. We have no problem paying for it. We can not be involved in transactions done between banks that change their names every year to escape fees.  We are the ones bailing them out. Today we all reside in homes where we can not afford to pay for the electricity, leave alone the mortgage. The government doesn't want the burden of representing the people entirely. The government wants the burden of collecting, privatizing, and making us pay for the tab.

Our courts are filled with disputes, and our judges are overwhelmed with papers to read. People are going insane and we are paying for the tab to build bigger and better courthouses. Our schools are becoming private schools and we can not afford to think too much. Life is harder than before.

Our teens are out of control, and drugs are available on every corner. The church can not help to solve this problem without money. The government overlooks it because it is a lost battle. Something needs to be done and we need to fight for our freedom.

Before I finish, I want to say that many secret groups of intellectuals were formed to make this world what it is today. We need the same group of people to diverge their direction into a more humanized way for us, the people. We are the workers, we are the producers, and we want some basic needs. We are content with our opium, and we live for it, for we believe in a higher power.

miltonibt1@gmail.com 

How to educate a child to become a responsible Teen

Children need discipline, and it must come from parents.

According to  the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). It means that 26% of our population will experience life with only one parent, or multiple parents/guardians, such as extended families etc. Either way, it is different from the real expectation of one child with a set of parents to take care of that child.

Most single parents engage in dating games, and the message passed to a child  is that a new person will take the place of a parent. It can get very confusing, specially when grown ups make babies and can not get along to raise them. It become reality to a child that he or she is in fault.

The remaining 74% of children under 21 in the U.S are being raised by a set of parents. Whether this set of parents are the natural parents it is not clear, but with a divorce rate of about 50%, it is fair to say that a large number of children are being raised with one step-parent, and some step-siblings as well.

Again, the message passed to a child is that grown ups can not keep a promise or engage in long term commitment. 

Those, whether single parents or married couples, who end up with the responsibility to raise a child is in charge of cleansing that child's mind of all negativeness from the past.

Parents Do not!
1- Fight in front of the kids
2- Use foul language to express fury in front of the kids
3- Involve kids into your fights

Parents have at least one luggage filled with nonsense they have inherited before they become parents. It is up to each individual to let that luggage interfere with their present. Nonsense is what you get when you are a child and presence your parents fighting, using foul language towards one another, or fight because of something related with timing and activities involving the children.

If you are a parent and if you committed the 3 do not mentioned above, chances are you came from a family that did not obey it either. Your nonsense is spreading and it will never stop. You were somehow a difficult teen who got away with things, and now as a parent you see things differently.

It is your fault! You can blame your parents if you want, but it is your fault because you have children now. If they do not obey your rules, it is because you let them get away before. Your sense of discipline was way out of order. You did not set the rules when your teen was a child, and now it is uncontrollable. He or she will face difficulties on their own. If they are not already in trouble.

It is too late to start setting "the rules of the house". You lost this battle. If you have a teen who is out of control,

Parents Do not!
1- Confront them with new rules
2- Invade their privacy
3- Reason with your teen. He will not hear you.

Parents Do this:
1- Cut part of the allowance. If there was none, give some money for expenses.
2- Encourage some of his friends to come over.
3- Try to be at the same age and get involved with activities.

Do not serve alcohol to minors and do not allow it in your house. If it comes to that, call the police. Do not hit your teen, for you will go to jail. Have lots of food available when friends come over, so they will spend more time at your place, and less time doing something wrong. Be creative and allow them to bring their computer to play games in teams. Have hot dogs and hamburgers for them all. Try to get inside your child's head as a mentor, and not as a pal. When ready, ask for forgiveness for committing the 3 don'ts for parents by doing things that would affect your child's life. Maybe this could change into something better, but do not hold too much expectation. Be sincere, for you had fights while your child was in the back sit of the car. You said nasty things to one another inside the house. You involved your child in some dispute.

You still can win this entire combat. You will make your child a good parent, considering that you THINK you failed in your endeavor. Be honest and take the blames specifically, to help your child to cleanse his mind of negative thoughts. Take the blame for everything and everyone, including your parents because they did not know any better. As long as you take the blame, you can then ask your teen to put a stop in this cycle of fights that affects everyone.

Teach him to respect his partner and treat everyone as co-workers. If we all learn to treat everyone as co-workers we would be happier. Work as a team with your partner - not against him.

If you have a child less than 5, you can not tolerate this child be out of control. Discipline need to be reinforced at this age, and zero tolerance for wrong doings. Rules must be direct. Time to go to bed, time to get up, shower, eat, play, etc. Time for fun with parents is necessary. Do not mix rules - it creates confusion.

Watch Super Nanny to get an idea how to discipline yourself and your child.

LEARN TO SPREAD THESE RULES:

Parents Do not!
1- Fight in front of the kids
2- Use foul language to express fury in front of the kids
3- Involve kids into your fights

If you would like to send a direct comment, please do so to
Milton@ibt-eft.com

Dog's Bathroom for the future

A bathroom for Dogs

I live in Lake Worth, Florida. In my town everyone is a pet owner of some sort, but we only see on streets dog owners. My street, Harvard Drive, is located in the north East side of the City, in a neighborhood called College Park. All streets were named over popular American universities. Harvard is a very well manicured road. The road has been paved and new side-walks have replaced the old ones. Most residents have palm trees in their front yard, and the entire street is the closest thing to a paradise. My front yard is a well-taken-care piece of land. It has at least 80 different varieties of plants and a small space with grass. While writing this post, I decided to stop typing, and moved myself out to take a picture of the road for you to see.

The picture on top shows a resident walking his dog. If you look closely into the picture you will see that it is a man who is taking his dog for a walk, or a dog who is taking his man for a walk. The man holds the leach with his left hands while with his right hand he holds a plastic bag with excrement.

The other 2 pictures show Harvard Drive. Zip 33460

How can in this world a man pick up dog excrement and carry with him inside a bag during a walk. How humiliating this could be to humanity. Think for a moment. A man picking up his animal manure right after he (it) disposed it. Not in a million years a man used another man to execute this type of function, which, of, could be perfectly normal if rich people did it in the past with their slaves. Today, January 25th 2012 I took a picture of a pedestrian walking his dog and making sure his dog's poop would not stay wherever it was placed. I admired this, at times, but other times, like today, it truly bothers me. I am not bothered by the fact that many dogs have used my yard. It did killed a few plants, but nothing that could not be replaced or rearranged. My yard is a part of nature and is available to all fauna.

I love watching the squirrels making their nest in my back yard and reproducing in large quantities, while my cats, Ruby and Thomas treat them as family. We also have raccoons wandering around, and on top of a palm tree, there is a large nest of possums, that adds to my animal kingdom each time they reproduce.  My cat Toby was murdered by a momma possums, who decided to bring her babies down from the tree into my yard for a walk. In the middle of the night there was a big commotion that woke us up. After checking that things were OK, we went to bed, to later find Toby dead on my neighbors back yard. Toby was Thomas' brother, and he is missed terribly by all of us. I am sure Toby's curiosity took the best out of him. "Do not mess with mothers. They will die for their offspring's". I always had this in mind.

Getting back to the dog business, after a few minutes of focusing on the barbarity of man kind I came up with the idea of a dog bathroom. At first it was a simple concept, but to make sure it worked I became very creative. I put into practice this concept by creating a spot that attracted most dogs. Once sure that my experiment worked for 4 days, I decided to destroy the "bathroom area" and I brought my front yard back to its originality. Most dog owners do not bring their dogs to my front yard because I have a signal stating that it is not permitted. Once, a while back, I took all the dog poop and placed them on the side-walk, so each dog could smell its own excrement, and find out that it had been removed. It caused some panic in my house, for I was not suppose to do that. But after I stepped on dog doo a few times, I simply placed them on my side-walk to express that I was aware that some owners were not obeying this crazy law of cleaning after your own dog.

He goes how the Dog bathroom works.

Built a poll in an grassed yard. This pool can have different form or shapes, even a design of a fire hydrant on the bottom. The poll has to be in an elevated area... 1 foot above the level of the drain.
Use an area in a park with at least 15 feet in diameter.
Around the poll, plant grass and a few "not spike" plants.
Around the circle, in its out-side, build a drain that would take everything from the grassed area into it, and carry it into the sewage line. See picture for more details.

For my experiment, I used some used pooped newspaper from a pet store, and I mixed it with water, and placed under the grass. Once it attracted a few dogs, everyone wanted to use that place.

Now, for a Park it is necessary to make it a very nice and clean place, where dog owners would meet, talk, knowing that their dogs had used the bathroom for number 2. There will be dogs on line, waiting to use the bathroom...

As you and I know, dogs are trainable animals. They will know that they are in a place where they can use it as a bathroom because there will not be any other place with that urine smell that only them can sense it. Once all dogs stop using people's yard, and start using their own bathroom, they will not be tempted do make mistakes. They will gladly enjoy the visit in a place where other dogs have visited.

When a dog licks you, they do it for your sense of smell and not because they are kissing you. They want to lick anyone who comes from outside mainly because they want to experience the smell of life and to know what is out there. Do not get carried away with kisses, for dogs are there to sense smell, which brings them to a different world.

Once all cities and local parks create dogs bathroom, we will not see mankind picking up his dog-doo.
We will see men cleaning the bathroom by either scoping it into the drain or washing it with water and pressure. Something simple that can be done every half an hour.

To attract more dogs, spray a can of dog smell/urine into the poll along with other indications that this is the place.

It can be build in every street. Just choose a place where to create it, and when it works, start the building permits to make it safer for usage. But first try with the simple way, by making a location where dogs meet, and later build the drainage, etc.

Good walk - this time to take your dog to the right place. As far as pee is concerned... it is just water for the plants, when done accidentally.

Milton