Suicide is not the answer. Teen Issues 2011 by Milton Laene Araujo

Suicide is not the answer.

People in general have suicidal thoughts at some point. And teens who take a step farther, in an attempt to actually kill themselves, feel like they want to die, but at the same time, many of them are happy when they discover that there are people who want to help them overcome their issues.

There are some factors that can make suicide seem a more desirable option for some people.

Family history. This can include a family history of suicide, mental disorders, and/or substance (drug or alcohol) abuse. 

Drug abuse - alcohol abuse.

Abuse - mental, emotional, physical or sexual 

Mental, emotional or physical disorders.

Depression is a major factor, and it means that a teenager has feelings, thoughts and stresses that he or she cannot handle any more. They try to solve the problem by killing themselves.

Tempting suicide is not confined to any age, gender, social or economic group. In any case it is a cry for help.

Some signs...Here are some of the things to look for:

• Disinterest in favorite extracurricular activities 
• Problems at work and losing interest in a job 
• Substance abuse, including alcohol and drug (illegal and legal drugs) use
• Behavioral problems 
• Withdrawing from family and friends 
• Sleep changes 
• Changes in eating habits 
• Begins to neglect hygiene and other matters of personal appearance 
• Hard time concentrating and paying attention 
• Loss of interest in schoolwork 
• Risk taking behaviors 
• Complains more frequently of boredom 
• Does not respond as before to praise

When human beings commit suicide they destroy many other lives. They have no sense of hope, and they have lost empathy for self, therefore, for everyone they know.

People in general - not only teens - have suicidal thoughts. Life is not easy!
Most people (in general) have an inner desire to stay alive, to fight for life.

Animals in general - give up living only when they are physically sick (ill).

Suicide is not the answer because taking your own life is a coward act against the nature of our own construction.

Travel with me in this scenery:

Imagine yourself looking up in the sky and see an explosion very far away, what we call supernova, or a creation of a star. With this explosion many different atoms mix up with others existent in its surroundings and a new element is formed.

From that perspective, imagine an explosion that happened before, The Big Bang -  when all matters neutralized each other into energy, and emptiness was present, except for one single atom.
There was a time in the past when things started to vanish in nature. Trees and cars and cities and rivers were being destroyed by force of nature or wind, and matter became powder, and powder became atoms who separating from its neighbors became self. The combination of Hydrogen and Oxygen creates water. Something we have in abundance on earth. Now imagine the opposite starting to happen. Where there was water becomes dry, and  with more hydrogen in the atmosphere, and more Oxygen  trigger fire, and other elements to become gas or energy, giving life to one single strong atom called nothingness, for it is the mixture of all there is. So things were transforming and turning into the atom of nothingness, which is a correct combination of major elements found on earth that makes itself invisible, but when combined with another brings a vacuum where if anything penetrates into that vacuum it would become nothing, yet. it would just increase the atom of nothingness, which is a combination of everything there is, yet invisible, and we call it black hole.

Simulated view of a black hole in front of the Large Magellanic Cloud. The ratio between the black hole Schwarzschild radius and the observer distance to it is 1:9. Of note is the gravitational lensing effect known as an Einstein ring, which produces a set of two fairly bright and large but highly distorted images of the Cloud as compared to its actual angular size.

General relativity
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A black hole is a region of spacetime from which nothing, not even light, can escape.^[1]

like a mixture of so many types of atoms that when in fusion create others able to deteriorate the entire system into a piece of self.

Life is the breath of air that we inhale every day to feed our longs into sending oxygen to our blood stream. Many animals and plants use the same system. They need air to maintain themselves alive.

Imagine yourself looking at the earth from a far distance, and a man made small robot was capable of feeding itself with silica. A chemical compound that is the main constituent of most of the Earth's rocks. Silica occurs naturally in five crystalline forms (quartz, tridymite, cristobalite, coesite, and stishovite), in a cryptocrystalline form (chalcedony), and in an amorphous form (opal). It is also the main chemical compound in sand. Silica is used to make glass, concrete, and other materials. Also called silicon dioxide. Chemical formula: SiO _{2 .}  This robot was equipped with a computer that could take silica from the earth, and with its combination was able to auto reproduce. This way, a small robot the size of a bee flying on the earth and landing in the Andes would start to devour the entire mountain while eating and multiplying. Like bacterias.

Now imagine yourself in today's Universe, where galaxies are formed, super nova happening every day, the universe expanding, more elements being discovered, besides hidrogyn, and a mixture of hidrogyn and other gases that only appear when there is a supernova, such as lithium, necessary for gun powder.

Man today is capable of mixing up elements and create explosions. Men take a mixture of atoms and mix it with others for when in contact with air we breathe can create the biggest explosion. It multiplies itself into fire, or radiation and wind with massive power all in one single atom, that multiply too fast. It can destroy an entire city to rubble. Today every country wants to have these types of protection from others. We are living in an atomic era.

Getting back to our imagination, During the bang, the conglomeration of elements and the change in temperature made them solid, and they tended to group with others forming a mass, and this way our earth was formed. Many elements behave differently in high temperature. Solids usually become liquid or gas, and when the temperature cools down, they solidify and are grouped in a different way from when they started, for example, in the center of the earth we have  Nickel and Iron and it has not yet cooled down completely. These elements are concentrated in the center for being heavier, and any mass in the universe has it own gravity to be able to stay afloat. The combination of gravity pulling towards itself anything nearby and the elements floating, the heavier ones will be deeper down, like particles in a glass of water floating and little by little found a ground to stay, and conglomeration of elements, in areas where we find iron, on a surfice we can find other elements that could only be created if they were grouped nearby and used the temperature change of the earth to form themselves, such as copper, gold, diamond, etc, etc.,

OK, now that we visited the formation of the earth, and somehow our existence, by being a mixture of atoms, such as carbon in our veins, hydrogen in our water etc etc, we can have a sense that we are a combination of these elements, and we need to eat these elements to keep ourselves alive. We know that nothingness exist and it is growing - and whatever is near will be diluted, but at the same time completeness has not achieved its climax. There are far away new mixtures appearing, new stars being born and the age of the universe, in despite of the black hole growing, is far away from being engulfed again into an atom of nothingness. So, we will exist for a long time, unless we commit suicide, and this is the reason for this entire conversation.

As human beings we have the clarity of communicating and sharing experiences with one another. We do not need to experience everything in life to discover what is good and what is right. We have the capability of reasoning about what to do. We learn from TV shows, programs, books, essays or even a blog like mine, which is never proof-read. Our friends go through trouble, our non friends go through the same things. We lack desire to fight because we became lazy. We want things to be resolved, but we do nothing to counteract the problem.

In a world where we have a government to create laws to protect every human being, and make every person count, we need to be organized and accept that we are transformation and evolution that now need to live into a society.

We fought against billions of sperm-a-tozoids to fecundate an egg. We are now part in the journey of existence. Not one person, nor any mixture of atoms can make us change the certainty that we think, therefore we exist.

What exactly takes people to commit suicide is the sickness of others, which can be overpowering, making some of them see themselves not fit for whatever group or society they belong. But the most important factor is FEAR. Smewhere, sometime, someone implanted this seed, or energy into pople's head, and when they can not see beyond it, they may opt to suicide. Fear of rejection, fear of acceptance, fear of ... Some can not even face a heart-break. Others want to make a relationship work, but prefer to leave and make the others suffers. In any sense, suicide is the worse thing a woman being can do to others, and to society. It is a cry for help that doesn't need to end in death.  IT IS A CRY FOR HELP -

If you ever thought about killing yourself, please just remember that it is normal to think about it in a non-thinking moment, for if we balance life and death, life is better. We thing, therefore we exist. There are various groups that can help you to overcome whatever feelings you have. Suicide is not the answer to anything because you burn the light bulb inside of you before it could energise the world with its transformation and presence. Eliminating yourself will simply cease your continuation and the desire to fight for whatever you are fighting for, and it will make you like good-for-nothing in your casue. When dead, your powder will contribute to the energy of nothingness, and wait for another big bang to come back again, for you violated the most sacred thing - "LIFE WITH CAPABILITY OF REASONING".

Everyone alive has a moment to die, and this moment is sacred between that person and its source of wisdom and energy. The reality is: We all kill ourselves in the end. We all commit suicide one way or another. A person that smokes is killing thyself a little bit each day, instead of taking it all at once. The air we breath and the contamination created by men has diminished many lives with diseases etc. Yet, it is not a motive to cease living at once. We have a reason to be here, although not revealed to many, we all are important in this existence. Make the best you can and share knowledge to induce others to have an objective in life. Life without objective drives a person to depression, and then suicide. Make yourself important, be good in something, for only the good ones will become important. Learn about what is going on right now - Solar panels, computer industry, made in USA products - Be an advocate for a cause. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming the world. You do not have to go to prison to value freedom.

Now, if you had a person in your family who commited suicide, please, understand that I am writig for all of us who sometimes consider doing it. I want to bring some life, and some desire to consider life.

What I am saying is, when a person commits suicide she leaves behind many people in sorrow, and depressed, and afraid of life, sometimes ready to check out as well, if not oriented.

The left family family members suffer, brothers are discriminated for being a part of a family that took the short cut in life. Many people will be cruel to a family where suicide took place. Sometimes just by knowing that a family member has these types of roots, a wedding may be cancelled and life itself turnes up-side down. People associate it with mental disorder, instead of any other factor. So, it is terrible to let your friends down, your family, your school when you are contemplating on it.

Now, if you have a person in your famiily who committed suicide, remember that a human being responds to pressure differently. A car tire, when full with air, compressed into a small space, creates pressure, yet it responds accordingly to the road by keeping the weight of the car balanced. A person reacts differently to pressure. Althought, it has more to do with fear, pressure is an emotional feeling that makes the entire brain chemestry to become volatile. Mood goes up and down, and when down a variety of thoughts and actions may take place.It is no one's fault. A human being in its right mind would not do such a thing, for it is the way life is. A tree bents and make turns to have a space in the sun. When a human being takes his or her own life, it could have simply be their time.  

When contemplating suicide, face the problem, open your mouth, let someone know that you have these thoughts. Make a friend! After that make 2 friends. Be honest and be yourself and you will see life better. Call your mother - who gave you life. Is it the present you want to give her? It is not the solution

- Milton Laene Araujo
Milton@ibt-eft.com

About life in general By Milton L. Araujo: Texting and killing - Teen issues 2011 - by Milton Laene Araujo

About life in general By Milton L. Araujo: Texting and killing - Teen issues 2011 - by Milton Laene Araujo

Texting and killing - Teen issues 2011 - by Milton Laene Araujo

The Internet was commercialized  in the 1990s and became an international network due to its popularization and its incorporation into virtually every aspect of modern human life. Coincidentally, at the same time cell phones emerged. Instant messaging became popular and so did texting, which refers to the exchange of brief written text messages between fixed-line phone or mobile phone and fixed or portable devices over a network.

Teens are text messaging at least forty times per day. Today, text messaging has been extended to include messages containing image, video, and sound content, therefore becoming a lethal weapon, and a necessary evil. Defamation, also known as libel is the communication of a written statement that makes a claim, expressly stated or implied to be factual, that may give an individual a negative image. Teens are sharing innuendos and defamation on twitter, also, sharing pictures of themselves nude, event worse, videos or anything of self risk.

Teenagers retaliate to groundless criticism with more vehemency.

Just recently, a teenager boy, 18 was arrested for making threats to his girlfriend via texting. After being bailed out of jail, he went back to his high school and killed his girlfriend, 17.

It has become common for teens to " text their anger away"  to whom and where they may. This is not only a teen problem, for it also includes parents of teens who are not up to date with technology, and parents and teens who experience the same technology advance. When parents lack Internet knowledge, teens are free to do whatever they want. When parents are aware of technology, both parents and children get wrapped up into all novelties of technology.

We are living in a society of selfishness. Families are broken and the lack of togetherness has battered the population.

Teens are learning everything virtually.

Internet laws are still trying to mature and gain shape. Whenever we are focusing on one hand-held device, and writing with the other hand, we are ready to ventilate.

 Both parents and teens are NOT in fault today but both need the same schooling, however, this school is in transition, or cannot keep up with technology. Schools of disciplining, and good manners is available online, but doesn't fit with with this change we are about to face.

In the near future schools - or a building for students to meet - will be available, but all classes will be virtual, therefore many will choose to take classes at home. More room for texting -.  Classes will be pre-recorded, and teaching will become a marketing for the fit.

How does one know the damages a text message can cause to another human being? Kids can be very cruel at times. Texting is a weapon that should be used to share information, and NOT to ventilate agony. But teens do it. People use texting to ventilate - or to promote themselves, like celebrities who text and share their whereabouts. This is a tool for a stalker. Yet, celebrities always want to share where they are, what they ate, etc. This is bad. People in general, (This year 2011), share via twitter wherever they are doing - I checked on the word bath just to check what was happening, and most of the people said that they were going to take a bath and go to wherever they were going. This is crazy, for any stalker or killer simply need to follow your messages...
Another teen caused brain damage to a classmate after she texted something related to his brother's suicide. He reacted to his emotions, and did not think.  Like texting - no need to think - whatever comes to mind can go there now!

When we refer to High Schools, they need a cell-phone tower as part of their building. This way any call will be connected with this same tower and communication will be controlled and semi-restricted.

Be careful if you are a teenager. Do not send "hating" text messages, for it can be the only thing the other person may have from you. Written word is immortal, and when used to defame, it can be hard and costly to repair. Be careful if you are a parent. Anything posted in any social media will stay there, and when one human being is exposed by others in a negative manner to the entire world, it is something we have no idea how disturbing can be. In this texting era, where grammar lost its power, and words became a gizmo of letters or abbreviations, is hard to let go off the past, It is hard to embrace an era where words get distorted, and start to live today.

Now we are collecting the fruit of what we planted in our society. It is an almost lost harvest. We can prepare for the next harvest by teaching moral examples to our kids and the truthfulness in the sentence " Treat others as you would like to be treated". Do not text hate messages. to anyone .

Milton Laene Araujo
Milton@ibt-eft.com

Gay issues 2011 - By Milton Laene Araujo

About life in general By Milton L. Araujo: Gay issues 2011 - By Milton Laene Araujo

Gay Issues: Passive or Active?

Homosexuality in men is something that has not been studied completely by anyone. What we know is what people say or do.

In the gay community, "passive" is a word used to describe a man who is the "recipient" of the penis during anal intercourse. Sometimes passive is also applied to the one who takes the other's penis into his mouth (receives it inside him) during oral sex. This is opposed to a person who is "active" which means they are the ""inserter" during anal intercourse and the "inserter" during oral sex. Someone who enjoys both giving and receiving during anal intercourse or oral sex would be considered "versatile". Often the term "versatile" is applied only to anal intercourse.

Someone who is "submissive" is often understood to be one who submits to another person's desires, whether in a sexual way or just generally.

"Submissive" is unlike "passive" in that "submissive" does not have to have an opposite. In gay sex, if there is a passive (recipient) person, then there must be an active person. Likewise in BDSM, if there is a submissive partner, there must also be a dominant partner because the submissive partner conforms to the desires of the dominant party. Most people, most of the time, are neither submissive nor dominant in their dealings with others, whether sexual or otherwise. They are cooperative. What we call "vanilla" sex is just cooperative sex, regardless of who is active and who is passive.

There is good reason from what gay men say and do to believe that the passive (recipient) person in gay sex often feels or imagines himself to be submissive and derives sexual pleasure from that feeling or imagination. Likewise, the active person often feels or imagines himself to be dominant and derives sexual pleasure from that.

The bottom line is. The root for all this terms comes from the person's background. Most Latin men see themselves as active because it is more manly than being passive. So, although they will experience and eventually will enjoy being passive, they will assume the identity of being active because it sounds better and it makes them feel as if the are the man in that relationship. This is too passe.

American gay man are more versatile, and in my view, they are more advanced in this sense. They have no hang ups about what they are or like. While Latin men think that having sex with a man and being active means that they are not all the way homosexual. Macho man in reality is a man who is afraid of his own sexuality. Most macho behave differently when drunk, and it says a lot about them.

In my experience, gay guys who defend the idea of being active are truly afraid of complete sexual experiences and will eventually get into marriage with the opposite sex to later find out that they made a mistake. A man who claims to be active has nothing to do with me, as a man who claims to be passive. Men should be versatile in all senses, if they claim to be gay. I do not believe in bisexuality, for it only exist for those who claimed to be active, and later decided to get married, and in order to function in the society they go after guys to have their nightly encounters. In bed everything can be different, and they may explore things they will feel ashamed of while living the other life. This is simply a mental unbalance.

There will be a day when men will have sex with woman for procreation, and not for recreation, and eventually they will explore all sides of sexual pleasure, for it doesn't require drugs and brings one to climax.

A woman - to keep a man in bed must explore all avenues, and eventually try to be active with her partner with objects etc, to make that relationship more complete. But while there is a ta bu, this experience is only practiced by a few couples. What i mean is: While having sex with  a woman, let her touch you in places you have never been touched before, and bring you pleasure where you never imagine. This is perfectly normal, and should not go away from the bedroom. This way men will feel more complete and lose desire to go in search of trouble outside of their relationship.

This is all for now.

Check on my other gays issues - by clicking on the right side of this site.

Milton

Gay Issues: Bullying

When I was growing up I've never experienced Bullying, nor I was a bully. The word bully did not exist, instead, we used the word cruel. Therefore, I was never cruel to my colegues.

Now, reflecting back to that time, there were older guys who made fun of others, but we understood it as a sense of inferiority. It was simplier then. A person who made fun of another suffered from lack of self confidence, and it was seen as such by all my peers. Whenever possible, that person would hear that his behavior was simply showing his inferiority to the other human being being manifested as a superiority. Today they form a group and become stronger.

For those who do not know what bullying is, (as myself, before living in America), Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, while some U.S. states have laws against it.

When bullying is directed on grounds of sexuality, such as calling names or abusing a person for his sexual orientation, it can become very problematic for the victim. This past week a boy took his life at the age of fourteen for being bullied at school. He was gay, intelligent, charismatic and friendly. He had qualities  we do not find on bullys.

Bullying is a HATE CRIME and must be treated as such. If you are a victim of Bullying, post it on your facebook, let the entire nation learn that you are being bullied. Take to the authorities, police, principal, parents, and make it clear that no one has the right to treat you that way. whether you are gay, or an adolescent in search of self, no one can decide for you what you will become, do, or how you act.

While teaching hogh school as a substitute teacher, I noticed that the bullies I had encountered were usually unattractive, over weighted, strong and stupid. They did not pay attention in class and acted as if they controlled the entire classroom. I ended it in one minute. I put them on detention, I called the principal, I gave moral lessons, and they learned that it was innappropriated. In my case, I was looking for them. I asked to stay in the same detention room with them to see their behavior. Even while in detention, they formed groups. While one student was being detained for tardness, the bullies were being detained to disruption in class. Even inside the detention room they made fun of the other student. This type of behavior is easily detected by any educator. The problem is that we as educators do not have the tools nor the authority to face them as they should be faced. We have to go through proper procedures, such as, not touching, not yelling, not getting upset with them nor calling them names. Many educators lost their jobs because parents of bullys are usually blind to their children behavior. They accept whatever the child saus and go with full power agains the system.

The solution is pure and simple. Bullies should be sent to the juvenile detention center for a program of 8 months. There, they will learn about life, people, differences and acceptance. They then will return to a lower grade. The problem is that bullys today go to the juvenile detention center and there are treated as victims. They take classes as if they are inside a classroom, yet they do not pay attention. They move on in the system, whereas, they should lose one, two, or even three years of their lives to learn to behave properly.

The message here is. Bullies are uninteligent people that should repeat the year as many times as necessary to be up to par with others in the same age group.

Milton Laene Araujo

Gay Marriage and a viable solution link

Gays Issues – Gay Marriage by Milton Laene Araujo

Marriage is a union between a male and a female. This union consists of whatever cultural, legal, religious or even social, economical and emotional reasons they decided to get married.

Should two people of the same sex get married? No!  It distorts the meaning of the word marriage, or creates another meaning, to accommodate a social relationship. Marriage should not be used to describe anything other than a commitment between a man and a woman, and such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.

The issue here is whether two people that share a space for a determined time of years have the right to be taxed like any married individual today, and receive equal benefits. Differently from slavery, racism, or women suffrage, gay marriage has been stretched out of proportion by being compared in a religious sense only, and ignoring what contrasts to it.

Gay people should not get married, but seek for a law that recognises the right of living with a partner and within duo process, the right to adopt and create a family.  Gay people may celebrate their union. But must refrain from the word marriage, for it involves religious beliefs and creates fury for those that vehemently oppose to it.  

It is a political issue, for it involves how to distribute the monies received, and it must be decided without any participation or involvement of religion.

A candidate to public service must recognize that a law needs to be created allowing roommates to have a brake in taxes, and enjoy whatever perks any married couple have. It doesn’t have to have a name, for it is simply a right - It may be called Union of Peers.

In this world of relativity, where one thing depends on another, people need to relate to another to grow spiritually. A union of two people must be recognised and insurance, health benefits, etc should be shared with any other human being.

It is a simple math. Considering that 50% of all marriages end with divorce, why a group of individuals with different sexual orientation, would want to get involved in something that brings nothing but law suits? Union of Peers should be simpler, and require the same address. 

Due to the distortion of the word marriage, and how it has been impregnated into individuals' mind, it is common to see on TV reality shows with gays getting into matrimony. Yes, it is disturbing to any form of faith and religious belief that most people follow. This is what has been played into people’s mind in relation to a “right to support other” agreement, which should exist: Union of Peers.

Therefore, the topic gay marriage should not be an issue. We need to have the right to pass our insurance to a friend or a roommate, or anyone to whom you decide to share, without affecting any premium. All individual policies would not exist anymore. We live in a world of relativity where we need a point A to refer ourselves to point B. We need to relate with others, to know whom and where we are. I oppose gay marriage because it is a mockery to the origin and conservation of the sacrament of marriage. I am in favor of a law recognising Union of Peers with less complication. Something more temporary. Open to all. Now, if you want the nutty gritty of this subject, visit this essay. http://www.bidstrup.com/marriage.htm

UPDATE - March 27, 2013 -

After I finished reading the link above, and doing some some soul search, I changed my mind in relation to gay marriage. I think that gay people should get married because it is a right. I take back all my idea of creating side steps for something that is imminent. People have the right to be free from religion, therefore, there is no arguable dissent to this topic. My post was written in 2009, and it was my idea then. I feel bad for my parents to presence something that they are not ready to face due to their religious belief. I feel bad for everyone who is offended at first for this law, that until now, has not been approved by the courts, but it will be approved, no matter what happens. But if we take a look at History, all changes related to civil rights occurred after great turmoil. I imagine now how difficult it was when a decision to free slaves, or to end segregation came about. Liberty and equality is happening, and only after it is settled that we would see that it makes sense. My heart goes to everyone who will be saddened by this occurrence, but they should not take it personal, unless they want to get married. I have been a racist against my own class because I used my emotions and my feelings that I inherited somehow. I have used bigotry, and I regret for being this way.

Creating laws to accommodate groups is the same as segregation, therefore it can not exist (I am referring to the creation of a Union of peers mentioned before). As you can see, our mind changes and we grow!

Milton




  

Milton

Gays -

A man has an infinite number of pieces. Each piece is connected into a central computer. This computer, called brain, collects each piece of information for its functions in all aspects of its existence.

We are electricity! Our organs to function need electricity. Not the same as we use in our home, but similar, yet, reversible and more complex, but incapable of self adjusting. Think for a moment of an automobile riding on an Interstate, perfectly fine without a motorist. Think of a time when it will be common. Would any of this be possible without electricity of any form? We know that electricity is a form of energy, and there are various forms of energy needed in our system. Our brain evolves as we evolve, for it is capable of storing anything we have presenced.

Back in the past, gay people were treated with electrical chocks, which is called aversion therapy. Using aversion therapy to try to change homosexual men's sexual orientation to heterosexual was controversial. In some instances, notably a series of 1966 experiments, the process was initially judged to have worked surprisingly well, with up to 50% of men subjected to such therapy not acting on their homosexual urges. These results produced a great burst of enthusiasm about changing homosexuality. However, indings were later shown to be flawed: most of the men treated with aversion therapy who stopped homosexual behavior were actually bissexual among men with an exclusive or near-exclusive homosexual orientation.

Certain pieces can not be changed. What makes a gay person gay is his or hers sexual orientation. Sexual orientation is a development that starts in childhood and it manifests itself after or during puberty. It can bring confusing at first, but with time everyone will be certain of his sexual orientation. A human brain is so complex to understand, that humanity will go through billions of years to discover that one single photon is capable of compiling all the information of its existence, in other words, our ashes will have stored what we are, and only time will decide what we will become.

That being said, one of the pleasures in life, that brings one to Ecstasy, is sex. Men and animal are the same. A wild male cat would travel the entire Forest looking for a mate to couple. Once domesticated, things changed. A man, although domesticated, does the same.  For a man, domestication is called marriage. The rest is normal. For a cat, domestication means neutering or have partners selected by the owner.

Here we apply the law of survival. As it was done to gays in the past. It was necessary to procriate, and if you have different sexual orientation, it was against the norm.  At first, to be able to keep a partner, it was necessary to purchase it. The man owned the woman, and could bit her up if necessary. He would pull her through her hair and place her upside-down through her legs. Gay people simply did not exist. It all started when a child played with another child and their brain got that information to manifest it when it was time. Many got over it, but others had this information sink in. For this reason, many scholars thought that the problem was with behavior, but it is yet, more complex that just behavior.

Today we know by experience that there are all types of gays, but the only thing they carry in common is their sexual orientation. They are all different. Like all straight men. They only have in common their heterossexuality.

For this reason it is important to appreciate everyone's sexual orientation, for it is part of their being. It is not a choice that people make when they are living, but a force that orients them into that direction, and no other force can pull it back. It is important to say that no one knows of anyone's sexual orientation, but oneself. Most people choose to live in a closet because they have lived an entire life being one person, and to make that transition would make that person miserable. Others, would prefer to live in a closet for safety reasons, and it boils down to individuality. Every one has the right to manifest whatever they deem necessary for their existence. No one is perfect. Not even you who is reading this post.

Now, when one human being sees homossexuality as a sin, this human being is blinded to all other sins that exist in his world, even his own sins. It is a waste of energy.

To finalize, I have to say however, that among gay poeple there are more promiscuity. This is a simple math. Gay people are not married, they can not have children, they can move from partners to partners in higher frequency, they can interfere more easily with other people's relationship, for they have no concept of the value of a relationship - A civil relationship is not permitted, and today it is not accepted - Even though, what makes a person is his or her character, whenever people are led into temptations it is not easy to deliver from evil alone.

What is important in life

What is life?

Life is a survival!

Observe earth from a satellite view!  See the earth from  "far away enough"  where you can se many large cities, as small conglomeration of bright spots. Observe the immensity of the earth.  Now...

Close your eyes for one minute and imagine yourself looking at a well designed wall, in a bathroom or kitchen ...yet, when you look at the corners you see dirt sports of midlew growing all over ... you are back into reality now! Let then, your thoughts go back to the satelite view of the arth - You are a dark spot on the marble of infinite immensity, which of  make all the difference.

Milton Laene Araujo

Socialized Democracy

Socialized Democracy – By Milton Laene Araujo – September 1, 2011

1-     Freedom—not only individual liberties, but also freedom from discrimination and freedom from dependence on either the owners of the means of production or the holders of abusive political power;

2-     Equality and social justice—not only before the law but also economic and socio-cultural equality as well, and equal opportunities for all including those with physical, mental, or social disabilities;

3-     Solidarity—unity and a sense of compassion for the victims of injustice and inequality.

Certain things in life, such as home, food, and education need our attention.

To begin with Home – It consists of a residence – Every human being must have a right to own a house. Food – It consists of what we eat – Every human being must have access to food in abundance. Education – It consists of where you are in relation to “all that is”. It means that you are growing spiritually.

By just thinking of certain things, such as home, and food you can travel-on in the idea of a perfect world. Imagine living in a place where you are happy to be a part of that community, and also able to move away whenever you feel it is the right moment. Imagine being fed and sheltered in your existence –

Now when we move to education, things get more complicated. Education means that our body is accepting the environment that has been created, in every-way possible, yet, receiving waves of information from all over. The desire for knowledge persists as a self-instinct to be.  

Milton L Araujo

Is this the beginning or is it the end?

When can I see you again? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_TzIUlaQok

In reality we all talk about the end, but little we know about science to have a firm position. Let me share with you a few topics.

A solar flare is a sudden brightening observed over the Sun surface or the solar limb, which is interpreted as a large energy release of up to 6 × 10²⁵ joules of energy^[1] (about a sixth of the total energy output of the Sun each second). The term is also used to refer to similar phenomena in other stars, where the term stellar flare applies.
Solar flares affect all layers of the solar atmosphere (photosphere, chromosphere, and corona), when the medium plasma is heated to tens of millions of kelvins and electrons, protons, and heavier ions are accelerated to near the speed of light. They produce radiation across the electromagnetic spectrum at all wavelengths, from radio waves to gamma rays, although most of the energy goes to frequencies outside the visual range and for this reason the majority of the flares are not visible to the naked eye and must be observed with special instruments. Flares occur in active regions around sunspots, where intense magnetic fields penetrate the photosphere to link the corona to the solar interior. Flares are powered by the sudden (timescales of minutes to tens of minutes) release of magnetic energy stored in the corona. The same energy releases may produce coronal mass ejections (CME), although the relation between CMEs and flares is still not well established.
X-rays and UV radiation emitted by solar flares can affect Earth's ionosphere and disrupt long-range radio communications. Direct radio emission at decimetric wavelengths may disturb operation of radars and other devices operating at these frequencies.
Solar flares were first observed on the Sun by Richard Christopher Carrington and independently by Richard Hodgson in 1859 ^[2] as localized visible brightenings of small areas within a sunspot group. Stellar flares have also been observed on a variety of other stars.
The frequency of occurrence of solar flares varies, from several per day when the Sun is particularly "active" to less than one every week when the Sun is "quiet", following the 11-year cycle (the solar cycle). Large flares are less frequent than smaller ones.
Solar flares impact Earth only when they occur on the side of the Sun facing Earth.  Because flares are made of photons, these travel out directly from the flare site, so if we can see the flare, we can be impacted by it.

The solar cycle is an average 11 year cycle where the number of sunspots goes from very few per month, to many, and back to very few.  At solar minimum, we might see no sunspots where at solar maximum, we can have 200 sunspots in a month.  Solar flares, coronal mass ejections and solar energetic particles all increase in frequency as we get closer to solar maximum.  High speed wind streams are more frequent at solar minimum, thus ensuring that space weather is something to watch for no matter where we are in the solar cycle.
"""Research to improve solar forecasting is occurring in two major areas. The first area is the correlation of observable

phenomena with effects on Earth. For example, we have observed a strong correlation between sunspot cycles and

disturbances on Earth. However, this correlation is very coarse; we know that during a certain period of years there will

be high levels of solar activity and the accompanying disturbances on Earth. But we cannot accurately predict these

disturbances as happening over specific days or hours, as we would like to be able to. Many researchers are trying to

refine the correlations between observable symptoms, like increased radio emission, and subsequent eruptions of

mass. Some of the best correlations yet are those that have been found between the evolution of sunspot groups and

eruptions."""

The second area of work is that of constructing a model for the Solar-Terrestrial environment. In addition to the

complexities of MHD, the problem is difficult because there are three different domains involved, which all couple

together. The first domain is that of the Sun; to simply construct a mathematical model of the Sun is far beyond us at the

present time. There are still many mysteries about what is going on inside the Sun, what triggers flares and even why

sunspots form. The second domain is the interplanetary medium, once thought of as empty space. This space is filled

with the solar wind plasma, which is not fully understood. The third domain is the geomagnetosphere, with its many

regions and currents. The magnetotail, extending for millions of kilometers out from Earth, has been difficult to study

directly and remains poorly understood. We are not close to having a model for any one of these domains by itself, yet

the final complication comes from the fact that these three domains are not at all separate. A change in one of these

domains can have major consequences on the surface of Earth; we hope one day to have a comprehensive model for the

entire solar-terrestrial environment but this is certainly a problem for physicists of the future.

A Bacteria de Cada Dia

A bacteria recicla os nutrientes no organismo. Muitos nutrientes dependem da bacteria para que eles sejam nutritivos a saude, pois as bacterias sao capazes de sobreviver em tudo o que existe, e podem ate se comunicar com a materia qual ela esta associada, e tambem com a materia qual ela nao esta diretamente associada. Uma bacteria que recebe nitrogenio da atmospera se preocupa com a putrefacao daquilo que ela esta habitada. Seja no corpo, seja na planta, seja em tudo. E isso que vamos discutir agora.

A bacteria e um microorganismo necessario para a existencia de tudo o que precisa de ar. Ela existe no ar que respiramos, na agua que bebemos, e em tudo. Nosso corpo cria ainticorpos que podem combater invasoes de bacterias, criando uma simbiosidade entre bacteria e outros organismos deixando nossa vida viavel para existencia por uns cem anos. Ninguem e alguem! Somos uma combinacao de todos os mirco-organismos que temos armazenado em nosso corpo fisico. Sejam eles geneticos ou recebidos depois da existencia. A combinacao destas bacterias criam putrefacao, e com isso, outras bacterias se aglomeram e geram um tumor, que esta sobrecarregado de puz. O tumos, uma vez existente, pode ser curado, quando visivel, mas quando invisivel, ele mesmo se aumenta, fazendo com que o organismo pense que aquele pedaco nunca existiu. Um tumor no cerebro, por exemplo, nao pode ser detectado visualmente. Ele aumenta vagarosamente, e nao deteriora de imediato os componestes vizinhos, pelo contrario, o tumor cresce e toma sua forma sem se alimentar do vizinho, mas espreme o vizinho enquanto cresce, e  isso nao causa dor nenhuma. Imagine algo crescendo dentro de voce qual nao atrapalha nada ao redor. Uma combinacao de bacterias que se alimentam do tumor e se multiplicam em busca de alimento para aumentar o tumor, e viajam por todos os orgaos, ate consumir o que precisam, deixando os orgaos quase paraliticos, e quando se manifestam fisicamente, ja e muito tarde. E impossivel repor aquilo que foi consumido dos orgaos, e mesmo retirando o tumor, os orgaos ja estao sem longevidade.

Sabendo que a bacteria cria putrefacao, e vimos isso diariamente, quando usamos o fio dental, imagine uma colonia de bacterias se juntando as bacterias que voce ja tem geneticamente herdado. Por isso e importante saber se herdamos alguma doenca - isso so sabemos com os nossos pais e avos.

Logo, devemos entao aprender sobre esta doenca e saber os primeiros orgaos que sao afetados. E com isso trabalhar com cada orgao individualmente, sem explosao ou bombardeamento das bacterias de uma so vez, mas graduamente, dando ao orgao espaco pra continuar. Muitos tumores hoje em dia entram em remissao e ate desaparecem com uma quimoterapia ou radioterapia, porem se eles ja se espalharam pelos orgaos, e necessario entao um tratamento de cada orgao, em ordem de deteriorizacao, tipo qual orgao esta mais atingido... para entao acabar com as bacterias que tentam invadir.

Nao existe cura para o cancer, pois o cancer e uma invazao de bacterias cancerosas, que se alimentam de nosso meio de vida. Quando vivemos diferentemente daquilo que o nosso organimso esta programado pra viver, salientamos estas bacterias em busca de nitrogenio, e logo elas apoderessem dentro de nos, criando um pequeno espcao qual nao doi.

E possivel que a falta de oxigenio pode tambem salientar estas bacterias - e quando usamos muito desodorantes acabamos eliminando o processo de reciclagem das bacterias entre os nossos bracos, e com isso elas podem se armazenar no peito, ou aonde nao existe nenhum orgao para eleas ocuparem o espaco.

Nao sabemos ao certo como eliminamos o cancer, pois alguns podem ser eliminados - ao nosso ver - por uns 50 anos, mas ninguem sabe como destruir.

Voce tem alguma idea?

Reparta -
Abracos
Milton

A sede depois de beber! O Efeito do Alcool

Alcool - Aqui referido como alcohol -

Quando pegamos a molecula do alcohol, tipo ethanol - C2-H5-OH, comumente misturado nas bebidas, e colocamos em nosso corpo, a mistura de ethanol com os ingredientes de nosso organismo formam  acucar.  composicao quimica C6-H12-O6. Obeserve aqui que o Carbono, o Hidrogenio, e tambem o Oxigenio estao presentes, tanto na molecula do alcohol como tambem na molecula do assucar.

O nosso organismo e composto de muita agua (H2O).  Tanta agua que significa  60% de nosso corpo. A agua e base pra tudo, e quando dissolvemos o excesso de acucar que foi criado no organismo, bate uma sede muito grande, daquelas que so batem quando comemos algo doce na hora. Se tivermos dormindo, acordamos e nos enchemos de agua.

Se nos nos hidratassemos diariamente, e tambem exercitassemos, acababariamos exalando algumas  moleulas de agua, e tambem de alcohol, atravez de nosso suor. Com isso o corpo nao conservaria esta invasao repetina do alcohol. e nao federia - veja ao lado um post sobre tomar banho.

O sangue se mistura com a composicao do alcohol e logo esta mistura rica em carbono, e hidrogenio, quando misturados com os acidos oriundos do alcool se trasnformam em gorduras. Ai entao entra o aumento de gordura, com areas do corpo desidratads formando bolsos de gorduras, ou murcilhas.

---- Voce vai ficar gordo, ou gorda! Ou voce vai ficar desidratado completamente, e parecer envelhecido por mutios anos nos olhos da sociedade. O pior simtoma do alcohol esta na aparencia do individuo. Uns ficam avermelhados, outros ficam velho depressa, com gordura espalhadas em lugares errados. Claro, alem da deteriorizacao fisica, aparece as sequelas das intoxicacoes. ---- Obom do negocio e que se pode parar por um tempo e melhorar a aparencia quase que de imediato.

Veja que uma bebida alcoholica e acida ja por natureza. Quando falamos em acidez aqui, estamos falando deste queimor no peito, diariamente, ou em certas horas do dia. Trata-se de uma gastrite oriunda da quantidade de acido que ficou despositado no sistema digestivo. Acidez significa um "potencial hidrogenionico"  (PH), com um valor menor que 7. A agua, pra ser boa pra beber deve ser neutra - ou seja, ter o PH igual a 7. Um elemento como a agua, embora seja clara aos nossos olhos pode estar acida ou basica sem que percebamos. Um Ph abaixo de sete significa acidez,  e acima de sete significa ama  base.

Mas saiba que potencial hidrogenionico nao e somente medido pelos atomos de hidrogenio. Existe outras combinacoes de elementos involvidos, e por isso e chamado "potencial", e nao quantidade.

Ja o acucar age como um criador de problemas. Na verdade, o acucar tem 12 hidrogenios, mas tambem tem carbono, observe acima. E por isso, alem da acidez no estomago, podera haver uma criacao de acucar, e com isso, aquela sede grande, e devido nossa composicao fisica, temos tendencias a conservar carbono e hidrogenio desta mistura. Perai - nao falamos em carbono. Bem, este esta no sangue, e isso tudo ja entrou na rede sanguinea. Esta combinacao de hidrogenio e carbono cria gordura, qual se alimenta do acucar, e se armazena no corpo, cada dia se modificando, e criando areas desidratadas, e envelhecidas, e tambem areas gordas, com grande concentracao de oxigenio e carbono. O Hidrogenio da agua e usado pra criar mais gorduras, que viajam nas veias junto ao sangue e se aglomeram por aqui e por ali.

A falta de exercicio e o excesso de alcohol somente cria problemas

Em resumo, alem de salientar o que acontece com o excesso de acool no organismo, eu demonstrei como isso afeta a gordura e a aparencia. Nem quero tocar no lado mental - esta podera ser discutudo depois. O importante, aqui, e que saibamos os efeitos do alcohol em nosso organismo.

Um outro assunto seria os tipos de pessoas alcoholicas. Existe 2 tipos. Um que bebe ate ver o final, e o outro que bebe ate cair e dormir.
O que bebe ate ver o final se anestesia, se esquece o que faz e quer beber uma bebida atras da outra. No outro dia acorda mal humorado e desconta nos que estao perto. Acaba perdendo emprego por falta de disciplina. Este ate pode ter um pouco de controle, pois somente faz isso nos finais de semana. Quando um ser se anestesia com a bebida, ele desliga a memoria daquele dia. Nao pode participar de conversas. Isso acontece com todo mundo que fica bebado. Se vomitar, melhor, mas os acidos se vao, e o corpo perde muito potassio, e com isso e preciso se alimentar, senao no outro dia fica doente com o mundo e com o corpo.


O que bebe e cai , quer beber sempre pra poder cair e dormir, e acaba misturando o que tiver. Esquece da vida e das consequencias de estar bebado, e sempre entra em encrencas. No periodo de intoxicacao, qual e mais demorado, pois o organismo ja vivenciou esta mistura outras vezes, o individuo participa em tudo, e ate faz mais sentido varias vezes, mas logo sai da conversa e vai se deitar.

Ambos podem e bebem socialmente, pois sabem as consequencias do dia a dia e bebem para perder a timidez, e sabem ate que ponto podem chegar.

Se voce nao precisa de bebida no dia a dia, mas quando bebe nao pode mais parar, como se fosse numa viagem de bebedeira por 3 a quatro dias, voce e um caso perigoso que deve procurar ajuda. Estes se afastam do trabalho por dias e quando voltam estao bom pra umas duas semanas de sobriedade.

O resultado sempre deve ser estes. Nao se meta com bebado, e cu de bebado nao tem dono.

Entenda que nao se deve argumentar com pessoas embriagadas. Eles perderam a razao. Elas ficam valentes as vezes, enquanto outras ficam gentis.  Somente um ser sem sabedoria procura encrencas com bebado.
Estabelecimentos que vendem bebidas devem manter ordem e nao embriagar alguem. Saber a hora de parar de vender pra certos individuos.

Veja que a esposa, dentro de casa, quando recebe o marido bebado deve ignora-lo, mas nao dispreza-lo. Se ela iniciar o assunto, acaba em briga. Por mais dificil que seja se conter, e imperativo pra que nao haja brigas. O sao deve ignroar o bebado.

Ja quando ambos saem a beber em locais publicos e se intoxicam, a briga e certa.

A todos que bebem, fiquem sabendo que a alteracao quimica vai trazer depressao no outro dia. E normal se acordar muito mal humorado, e sem paciencia, e se um casal acorda assim, devem se evitar ate que a comida entre no organismo e a mente entao pode aceitar as condicoes do corpo.

Quando um bebado chegar em casa inteiro - agrade-o , ele chegou! - Lide com o resto no outro dia.

Por hoje e so isso.

Milton Laene Araujo

Milton Laene Araujo: Substitute Teacher

Milton Laene Araujo: Substitute Teacher

Substitute Teacher - Forest Hills Community High School, FHCHS, in West Palm Beach, FL

My years of substituting at the Forest Hills Community High School, FHCHS, in West Palm Beach, FL. were the best years of my life. It started in 2006 and ended in 2010, however, during this time, I substituted at other schools, but the one I remember the most is Forest Hills High in West Palm Beach.

Its location is just 2 miles away from my house. Very easy access. The administration is outstanding. The school is a paradise. A enormous kitchen, various garbage cans all over the place, for students to make use of it. The place is clean. Classrooms are neat. There is a patio where students can sit outdoors, even during the rain. The design is extraordinary. From various points you can see the entire out-side area of the school. It is well patrolled by security, and every student needs a pass to leave the classroom.

Students at FHCHS are from different ethnic groups, and they get along very well. Yes, there were a few fights throughout the years, but nothing major.

For a period of 4 months I substituted for students who needed special education. Although, I had no training, I copied others teachers . One Student got my attention, and he was the reason why I decided to stay longer. His name is Maynor, and he was 16 years old at that time. He had speech impairment, along with autism, and muscle dystrophy in his back making him look up sideways while walking. Maynor was very loud, and mumbled his words with different pronunciation, but clearly stated. I learned his language, and was able to communicate with him, read his intentions and even smile when I caught him trying to disrupt others. Maynor loves to touch people while he is talking. Some teachers did not like that, and tried to tell him many times to keep his hands to himself. Maynor could not draw, but he did it anyway. Lines crossing each other, and some bad shaped circles, mixed with what could be a head. When I asked him what was in that picture he said that it was what was written in the card for him to draw. He pointed each item, and for whatever reason, a semi circle was the coca-cola can. It was as if he could see half of the can from the top, and a dot was the straw. I memorized his drawing and placed every one's draw on the wall. Robert, 17 was Mynor's best friend and colleague. He was able to communicate better and they were inseparable. They always walked together, and did everything together. It was great to see their friendship. Robert was able to understand Maynor 100%, and he translated to me many times what Maynor was saying. They sat together, and on bad days, when one of them was not feeling well, they could exchange words that only they understood, but it was loud enough to ask them to cut it out.

Every day at 10 Am, after they had placed their belongs into proper shelves, returned their homework, placed it inside their folder for the teacher to check it during the class period, they would line up to take a walk at the soccer field.

We did all sort of work inside the school, such as pick up the garbage and place a new trash bag inside each container, clean the cafeteria tables, picking up whatever other students left behind. It was all scheduled during the day, who was going to do what. No one dare to separate Maynor and Robert. They both resented the cafeteria job, for both wanted to stay outside, but they took their turn. All this work was to make them feel responsible. They loved to go outside and do their shores. It was not too much. It took a lot of work from us teachers to get them ready for something that would take no time if done by the proper people. I have to say that at FHCHS they have staff to do all the work mentioned above. They were always present while we were "helping". They understood it. Sometimes they did it all and when we got there we had a free time. The staff knew every student by name, and referred to them properly. Maynor was the most popular, for he knew everyone, and talked to everyone, with Robert always translating.

Inside the classroom they had computer time, where they would do their lessons online. After they would play word games or anything in that program. They washed their hands constantly, and teachers were aware of everything. There were teachers that took care of only one child. I had a chance to be with every children, and my memorable day was when a few graduated. They were in the age to graduate and leave the system for reaching 18 years old. They did not complete all credits, but they got their diploma, they attended to prom, and they participated in the school album as well. I took 2 of them to the prom and we had a ball dancing. Everyone took our pictures, and some even cried watching them having fun. A teacher later told me that she thought I had done something extraordinary by taking the girls and dancing with them. We actually stayed in the dancing floor all night.

Every day before the class was over, we would go to each classroom and pick up the attendance sheet. I would take a group of 6 students, and divided into 3 groups of 2 and watch them ring the bell and ask for the attendance sheet. For them it was a party, to enter into a classroom and see other students.

I command FHCHS for this work and I highly recommend this school.

Milton

PS. One day a teacher asked- What is this on the wall? referring to Maynor's drawing mixed with everyones. I said, well, I see here a can of soda, and over here an eagle, and she looked at me strangely, while Maynor and Robert got up from their seat to show her the other 3 pictures. She looked at me and said that it was nice. Maynor then asked me: Mr. Milton, Maynor pan dan the gom now? Yes, Mr. Milton, Yes? Yes? - I said - Not now Maynor, but when we return from our walk, I will let you use it for 15 minutes. He smiled and said OK. The Teacher later asked me what he said, and I told her that I alowed him to play with the video game for 15 minutes after his walking. She was happy that while I was there we all got along well.  

How parents should educate their children

Parents must have this path down, or problems will arouse soon.

1- Create a written down schedule about the rules in the house.

• Time to get up in the morning
• Time to do homework
• Time for leusure alone
• Time for leusire with family members
• Time to eat
• Time to put away all toys
• Time to do a shore

2- Create a written down poster about what is not allowed in the household.

• Not:  yelling, screaming, pushing, answering back to parents, kicking furniture, writing on the walls etc etc.

3- Create a written poster of the consequences of braking the rules. "Time out" is imperative for children less than 10 years of age. They have to stay put in a place from 3 to 10 minutes. However, this technique only works when the child understands it. An adult must talk to a child face to face, in a firm, not loud voice, and give warnings that a rule is being  broken, and that if it doesn't stop that child will be put in time out.

• No cell phone
• No TV
• No Computer
• Curfew

4- Teach your child about the "food family group" and write the name of all foods in a chart and decide what they can have in the morning, afternoon etc. Do not serve them junk food at all times. Have a jar or a  bowl with all his snacks for the entire day placed in the kitchen. Have an apple, an orange, a banana, have some chips, juices, candies, and let your child know that he is allowed to have anything from that jar or bowl. However, have the time set for each snack.

5- IF YOUR CHILD IS UNDISCIPLINED  - Here is what you do!

• Tell your child that, from today on, things are going to be different.
• Unload all your faults as a parent - Starting from saying that you have not spent enough time with him or her or all of them, for that matter; and that you have been away most of the time. Let him know that you are sorry for being so rude with him, when he was just being a child. Let him know that you have not payed enough attention to his needs as a parent, and that you are going to make things better. Talk with your child as if he was a co-worker this time, by respecting your child as you would respect any other human being.
• Stop being so authoritary!
• Do not spank! It is not necessary!
• Spank yourself!
• Do not yell! It is annoying!
• Again, set the rules up front, and share with them what the new rules are and how they are going to be followed.
• Be a parent - and stop being a child!
• If your child has no discipline, it is your fault!
• BE the adult!
• Do not play the "victim" part.
• You chose this life, therefore, take it, and make it better. Learn about discipline, and apply into yourself.
• Remember once and for all, if your child has no discipline, you are the only one to blame. Start with the person in the mirror.
• Do not drink or smoke near them.
• Do not enoucrage bad behavior!
• Be aware of your child schedule and participate!

Thanks,
Milton 

DEFINITION OF LOVE

I am in love! What is love?

First love is a chemical unbalance of the brain that is necessary for human beings to survive in community. I say unbalance because when we sense (feel) love, our brain goes into various changes in a very fast pace,  and feelings in regards to anything else are not balanced, or controlled.

When love appears for the first time (love in a sense of passion),and we have the maturity to abstain from sex, we can deal with it in a more reasonable way, but it is hard to simply not feed love with sexual encounters. We've  all learned that the fuel for love is sex. Although, it is not the truth.

When we find out that we are in love, we simply stop to existing to our friends, to family members and anyone who is not a part of our new discovery. We want to spend more time with the loved one, and they become the solution to all of our problems. Love make us blind. We do not see beyond our realm of attraction. This type of love, unfortunately is unhealthy.

For this reason, love at first site happens, and can be fuelled into a love forever. However, it is necessary to maintain alive the desire to get to know the other person. If this feeling is fuelled with lies, it will evaporates. The desire to keep this feeling can be disastrous. So, love and lies do not go together. (GET IT).

Love starts as a passion and a strong desire to learn about somoene. When we are in love, we are actually in love with the idea of learning more about somone we find atractive in many ways. We call it love, for it is a strong emotion, and we may have never felt anything similar before.

So, nowadays, passion and love are mixed up by most individuals. For this reason it is important to define passion as a strong desire to be with someone right now, without thinking of the consequences. And love is a desire of continuance.

A passion goes away as soon as we learn that the person we are affectionated with has too many baggage, or someone else comes aboard more interesting. A passion when practiced with sex is a recipe for disaster. Usually one involved will get addicted to that expression of love, and will use sex as a fuel for that feeling. The heart will search for continuance, and soon will learn that a mistatke was made. Hopefully without babies! 

A passion turns into love when one feels the need to give love. Even though, emotions are hardly involved in it's full array, humans can learn to turn a passion into love if they are honest with one another. When only one party is interested in developing passion into love all by himself (herself), he or she end up in a road called Suffering.

If your first love is a person going through hardships, be careful, for you may end up loving too much! Humans in general like to be needy, and when an opportunity appears, they think it is love. Yes, it is the love of giving, caring, sharing, but it is not the love with desire to continuance. Usually, the person to whom you are expressing love will show his need for tenderness, but it doesn't necessarily means that he will be able to reciprocate love on a long run.

When one loves too much, one wants to love extensively, but end up giving it too much and too fast, smattering the other human being. This is not love, but only a desire to help or cure someone one thinks to be in love with.

In summary, if you are experiencing this new feeling, enjoy it, but also check it out:

Who are you in love with, and does he love you back?
Is there any potential to make that love turn into "growth"?
Are you being loved back?

The answer is: YES, YES, YES for wrong reasons! "Check it out" means to know if this person who is messing with your body chemistry is worth your time and dedication? If so, why?
Has he ever loved before?

For all first lovers out there, I recommend you keep the line of communication open with your parents. They have a clear vision of what it is and what it isn't. They can't live your life for you, but they can guide you into not getting involved with liars.

Now, leaving aside first love and it's symptoms, I can directly talk about love in a sense of using the full array of humans emotions.

To begin, love and lust are usually mixed up.
Lust is a desire to be near, have sex, enjoy that moment, and in the morning, lust goes straight for the door in search of it's own solitude. Lustful people are people that experience a passion along with sex, and they confuse it with love. It is love for sex, love for attention, love for libido satisfied. Yes, it can all be love, but it is not the LOVE I am talking about.

Love is the desire to accept yourself (and feel accepted) exactly as you are and find someone who sees you as a potential for spiritual growth. Spiritual growth happens if both parties are honest, truthful, and without shame to learn about self, and share it as one learns, and discover that another being sees you pass all your physical differences, mental interpretation of something, but wants to be with you for this spiritual ride, no matter what day-to-day brings.
  
When you decide to tolerate your mate's bad habits you will have yours tolerated. This is a recipe for love.

If you see no growth, leave that person now. Growth we see when we want to better ourselves and we have someone who wants it more than we do. They are the force! If lies exist, growth evaporates!

If you see a potential for reciprocal growth, stay in there.

One common baggage people bring into their new relationship has to do with self steam. Do not fell in love with the idea of curing them. You are not a doctor, and doctors do not marry their patients. Again, if truthfulness is present, something good will come out of this.

Love is a desire to grow spiritually with somoene in despite of their faults and mishaps. Love means to accept what each day brings, and be happy for feeling loved. Love is not the idea of loving a thing or an experience, but the urge to grow together with a human being, despite of any changes in their behavior. Love is to stay together during hardship. Love means to stick there and love each moment.

If your loved one has cheated, be advised that your problem is with your loved one, and not with whomever he cheated with. It can be your best friend. Most of the time friends want a piece of what you have. First and foremost, do not have any friends to confide your life. This is only between you, your loved one, and if necessary, your family. Close friends are good, but not ever to confide what you are not capable of sharing with your loved one. THIS IS A TRAP! Friends are good when we are growing in search of our mate. They can be good shoulders. Or when we are in financial difficulty, but they can not take the space of your lover when being true (truthful) is in question.

Be thankful for your friend actions! She is gone, and probably he will be gone too. Deal with him only. There is nothing more absurd than taking matters into your hands with a third party when your loved one let it happen. Can you handle it? Can you stick in there?

Whatever you do, remember that love is not happening! Do not be silly to the point of saying: "I love him."
You love an idea of a human being near you. I am sorry for you because you call love 'your desires', and doesn't make love a reflexive-reciprocal verb, but a noun. I love you because you are the father of my kids.

I love you because you are the way you are and you act stupid, and hurt me, but you are even more hurt than I am, because you love me so much, that you will leave, if it would make me happier. I think we can work this out, but stop being guilty. It happened, and you did not control yourself, but I am glad you told me first. We will keep our honesty between us and see where it lead us to.

Only relaxed people can truly love. LOVE IS A DESIRE TO GROW spiritually WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.

Milton

Third World Countries - By Milton Laene Araujo

Once upon a time, there were two ideologies to be followed. Capitalism or Socialism. Capitalism gives opportunity to self marketing. Socialism gives opportunity to equality. Although, Socialism sounds good, it is impossible to obtain completely. The same thing happens with capitalism. No nation can be one or another, and it was discovered in 1989 when the Socialists countries broke apart.

It was noticed then that a few countries did not follow any of these two choices. These countries coincidentally, had their economy working badly, and for not being part of either one or two choices, they were called Third World Countries. These countries, such India, and Egypt are old countries, and it explains that age has no part in their development.

Any poor country - Which of, is referred as Third World Country, by most of the people, however, differentiated by scholars, are countries that were mixed up with communism and capitalism and did not option to either causes vehemently. They remained neutral, and for so doing, they simply did mot favor either one, and were left behind economically.

What make a First World Country is not its age, nor the ideology it follows. It is:

• Working Ethics
• Integrity of the person
• Responsibility
• Respect to the laws
• Respect to the other human being
• Love for your work
• Desire to overcome obstacles
• Punctuality

Unfortunately, many countries that are old - such as India and Egypt, have not seen these 8 factors described above. Most third world countries can't see this. It is has nothing to do with size. Observe that Japan is surrounded by islands and mountains, and yet, it is an ambulant factory, and today is the second world economy. It has nothing to do with age. Australia, Canada and New Zealand were unknown 200 hundred years ago, yet, they are developed today.

In summary, the Third World Countries will remain behind if they do not create laws that are able to incorporate all 8 listed factors.

Third world country must change their attitude!

This is how it ends.

Milton Laene Araujo

A good customer in a restaurant

A good customer expects good service. However, to be a good customer in a restaurant, or a good guest, one must be familiar with the ambiance and the required attire, and dress properly. To go out for dinner is supposedly a ceremony. It is to enjoy the company of a partner, the ambiance, the food, and the service.

• A good guest would not stop his conversation to pay attention to the waiter. A good guest knows what he wants. He clearly states to the server his needs, and understands that the server has other tables to take care of, simultaneously.   
• A good guest place his order and forgets about the server. A good guest doesn't have the need to worry about anything, other than enjoy his time.  
• A good guest doesn't request a selected server in a restaurant.
• A good guest expects everyone to serve the same way, with the same courtesy.
• A good guest returns to the same restaurant whenever possible.
• A good guest is gold.

In fine restaurants, servers would approach the table immediately after the guests are seated, and have a feel about the guest by informing them that bread and butter is on its way, and that he is interested to know if the table is going to drink still water, tap, or sparkling water with their dinner, and right after, the server asks if they would like to order a cocktail now, or if they prefer to look the wine list, or menu before deciding.  If a good guest is interrupted, they will not become a good customer. So, to be a good guest it is necessary to inform your server about the service you received. Not only when it was a positive experience, but all times. It is part of paying for a service. It is a "customer satisfaction information" done at that time verbally. 

In summary, to be a good guest in a restaurant one needs to dress up to have a great experience, where you would enjoy your time, without interruptions, and be served adequately, and not be forgotten. When tipping, take in consideration your experience, and be generous accordingly.

Milton 

Self Help Books to conquer fear

Whenever we go through different experiences in life, fear is eminent. Fear is a positive thing. Fear is a connection with God. As humans, we tend to omit the truth about many things to many different people we relate. We like secrets, and we like to make things up as we go on. This is the verb: to lie. And it means not tell the truth. People lie because of fear. Whatever the reason is, it is connected with fear. When we lose fear, we become an angel. The consequence of fear is evolution. So, fear is a part of a human being, and for fear, we create love, which is the opposite of fear. The point here is: Human beings are not perfect.

• Fear is positive because it induces us to conquer and move on in the line of knowledge.
• Fear is a connection with God because only when we fear, we value something that is unknown to us.
• To error is part of being a human - To lie is part of an error.
• No fear = angel. Superior than human beings, and more connected with God. Angels are messengers of God in the Hebrew and Christian Bibles.
• Only "by fear" man can conquer what is unknown. Only after conquering fear men evolve.
• When we are fearful, we learn to adapt to something unknown, and we call our addiction love.
• Love is the opposite of fear because when we feel the opportunity to evolve, we fall in love with whomever (people, things, ideas,) that make us evolve, and fear is not present. As we grow spiritually, fear adjusts itself, and life is bearable.  

Yours Truly,

Milton Laene Araujo